Q - Bakit po dapat pang magpaganda para makaakit ng manliligaw? Di po ba real beauty is deep inside?
A -
Kung ang gusto mong maakit na manligaw sa yo ay
- medical internist na makakakita sa "what is deep inside you",
or
- a prophet who can see your heart/spirit deep inside,
di mo na talaga kailangang magpaganda.
PERO kung ang gusto mong makapansin sa yo ay karanimang taong tulad mo, dapat naman siempre presentable and attractive ka.
Yes, beauty is only skin deep, but would you hope/like to be noticed because of your very beautiful .......intestines???
Friday, 27 January 2017
Thursday, 19 January 2017
Daily Devotion
Romans 12:3
Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you.
There is one very dangerous thought na dapat nating pinag-iingatang wag palaging isipin. This is the thought that we are above others.
I am above others intellectually. Mas marunong ako kesa sa inyo. So, pag nagsalita ako, makikinig kayong lahat. Di ko kailangang makinig pag nagsasalita kayo. I am above others materially. Mas malaki ang kita ko. Mas mayaman ako sa inyo. Mas marami akong dino-donate. Mas marami akong ibinibigay, so I deserve more attention. I should be given prominence. I am above others socially. Mas mataas ang ranggo ko. Mas marami akong na-accomplish. Mas kilala ang pamilya namin. When I talk, you shut up. I lead, you follow.
Isa ito sa mga malalang sakit ng napakaraming tao. Kahit nga kung minsan, mga anak ng Dios pa ang laging nagmamataas. Inilalagay ang sarili sa mas mataas na dapat kalagyan. Ikaw ang dapat na unang bumati sa akin pag nag-aaway tayo, kasi mas superior ako kesa sayo. Pag dumarating ako dapat pinapansin mo ako agad. Pag meron akong gusto, yun ang dapat mangyari. Yung gusto kong pagkain ang oorderin natin sa restaurant. Yung gusto kong pelikula ang panoorin natin.
This is childish behavior. Habang ang tao ay nagma-mature, lalo tayong nagiging mapagbigay. Mas natututo tayong magparaya para sa ikaliligaya ng iba.
Family or Ministry?
Family or Ministry?
Q -
I am a young/new pastor. I believe that as a servant of the Lord, I must maintain a well balanced priorities between my Church Ministry and Family. So I have set aside a day for my Family (Family Day), but my other co-pastors make us feel that it is not right (Unbiblical). In spite that I offer most of my weekdays to the Church. (I am also currently an OFW). So what is your view about having time for the family? Which one must be prioritized, family or Church Ministry?
A -
Your family day is an excellent, beautiful, godly idea.
CONTINUE DOING IT.
AND HAVE MORE TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY.
Yung members nga ng church, siguradong may family dayS pa nga.
PAG NAGKASAKIT KA, NARATAY, NABUROL, ETC, family mo ang mananatali sa paligid mo araw-araw.
Church people will only visit you once or twice ---if they would visit you at all.
Minsan sobra ang expectation ng church sa pastors and other workers pero kulang na kulang na kulang naman sa pag-aalaga at pagsusuporta sa mga ministers na ito.
Q -
I am a young/new pastor. I believe that as a servant of the Lord, I must maintain a well balanced priorities between my Church Ministry and Family. So I have set aside a day for my Family (Family Day), but my other co-pastors make us feel that it is not right (Unbiblical). In spite that I offer most of my weekdays to the Church. (I am also currently an OFW). So what is your view about having time for the family? Which one must be prioritized, family or Church Ministry?
A -
Your family day is an excellent, beautiful, godly idea.
CONTINUE DOING IT.
AND HAVE MORE TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY.
Yung members nga ng church, siguradong may family dayS pa nga.
PAG NAGKASAKIT KA, NARATAY, NABUROL, ETC, family mo ang mananatali sa paligid mo araw-araw.
Church people will only visit you once or twice ---if they would visit you at all.
Minsan sobra ang expectation ng church sa pastors and other workers pero kulang na kulang na kulang naman sa pag-aalaga at pagsusuporta sa mga ministers na ito.
Saturday, 14 January 2017
Daily Devotion
Ruth 1:16-17
But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me.”
Kausap ba ni Ruth yung asawa nya? Hindi, ang biyenan nya! Kapisan nyo ba ang inyong biyenan ngayon? O, as usual ay nakahiwalay sa inyo? Ano ang sinabi ni Ruth, “Walang maghihiwalay sa atin kundi kamatayan.” Akala mo romantic love? Pagmamahal ng manugang sa biyenan.
Bakit nga ba ang pinakamaraming giyera sa mundo ay sa mag-biyenan? Para bang puede mo pang palitan ang biyenan at ang manugang. Hindi na puede yon. Kaya dapat ay mag-adjust. Kung problema nyo yung biyenan nyo 20 years ago at problema nyo pa rin hanggang ngayon, may problema rin talaga kayo. Tuwing may family reunion, lamay o kasalan, yung reklamo nyo sa kanya ang laging pinag-uusapan nyo. Ganun pa rin hanggang ngayon?
Kung hindi nagbabago yon e di kayo ang magbago. At sa lagay gagawin ninyong miserable ang buhay ninyo at ang buhay ng anak o asawa nyo? Na hindi tuloy nya malaman kung saan siya lulugar at para siyang laging nasa pagitan ng nag-uumpugang bato? Nag-aagawan ng atensyon at nag-uunahan sa pagsusumbong ang nanay at asawa? Pareho namang hindi na puedeng palitan. Dapat mag-adjust. Dapat mahalin ang mga anak at pati na rin ang mga manugang.
Tuesday, 29 November 2016
Ed Lapiz - More than one blessing (November 27, 2016 )
Ed Lapiz - More than one blessing (November 27, 2016 )
Sunday, 9 October 2016
Sunday, 2 October 2016
Ed Lapiz Facebook Timeline
Huwag kontrahin ang taong lagnat na lagnat sa kanyang passion.
At best, it could bear great fruits.
Kundiman, LILIPAS din yun.
Huwag magyabang kung papataas; kasi papataas ka pa LANG.
Lalung huwag magyabang kung nasa pinakataas ka ngayon
kasi ang kasunod na nyan ay pagbaba.
AFTER THE HIGH NOON FOLLOWS THE AFTERNOON.
Habang papataas ang araw at papalapit sa pinakamataas na punto sa langit
ay papalapit na rin ito sa pagbaba at paglubog.
Q - Tito do u believe sa blessings o mga paghagis ng barya,etc when u open business for the very first time? Pra daw po swertihin ang negosyo tlga? Kasi wla ako idea sa ganun.
A -
No big deal. Makisakay na lang. wala namang masama. Pampasaya
:-)
Ed Lapiz
October 3, 2014 ·
Q -I feel so low.. I know I dont have the right to question God, I know all His plans are for us to be better. I know all the temptations are only to strengthen us, and He will not give us a test or temptation that we cannot handle and get over with.. I know that when we are becoming closer to Him, using our body, talent, everything we have are for His glory then satan will be like lion hunting us to stop. I know that, pero parang ngaun, naiisip ko, parang ayoko nlng maging active sa church, parang ayoko nlng magpagamit sa church for God's glory, kase as I assess myself, when test comes, I fail to be strong. I know that it should be learned as a test to be stronger. Nung youth ako naging active ako then temptation comes, I fail to over come it. Tpos nung bumalik nako ngaun mas mature nako, temptation came and I fail again. Ngaun, kung kelan mas marami nakong narinig na teaching about temptation na dapat I-over come after maging mas malapit sa Diyos, or nagpapagamit sa ministry, ngaun I am asking God, why does He have to give me these temptations that I cannot win over, I am weak when it comes to choosing whom to love, and yet all the test that He is giving me is about that. I know I should not question Him, but I am being eaten by this situation. I need someone to talk to pastor, but I am pushing everyone who attempts to. Why God has to give me a test that He knows I am failing? Is it to make me strong and eventually over come it? I cried to Him and asked Him why.. am I sinning again for this? Im feeling that He is disappointed to me and turn His back on me, but I know, I am the one turning my back on Him, that He is just waiting for me to call Him and come back to Him. Mababaliw nako pastor..
A -
Most of our impressions and assumtions about God are manufactured by preachers, teachers and the church out of what was taught them by traditional theology. You need to question those assumptions, like the ones you enumerated here. God is good, kind, understanding and forgiving --- and no theologizing should hide or contradict that basic truth.
Just keep doing good, serving him in the process. Do not hate yourself when you fall; God still loves you no matter what. Just do your best. That should be good enough. No one is perfect. Do not allow other people's interpretations of scripture and notions about God make you always feel guilty and undeserving of God's kindness.
Q - Dearest Pastor Ed, Greetings! It has been almost two years when I ask your opinion about my plans of __________. (I am not sure Pastor if you still remember me).
I ...sent you a message about my struggles (in my profession) and challenges in (my life) .
I would like to express my appreciation for the advice and the enlightenment that you gave to me when I was making my decision. I am happy to inform you that I am now (in a situation where I could only be thankful to God as I am quite satisfied and happy.)
*
I believe it is time for me to give back and to share the blessings that I am continuously receiving. In this regard, I would like to know how I could send (funds) to your church for my tithe/donation. May I ask if your church has a bank account where I can send money? I still have immediate family in the Philippines whom I can ask to do the bank transaction for me. Kindly send me the bank name and the account information so that I can proceed with the transaction.
*
Pastor Ed, more than words can say but you are really a blessing to me. There are times that I am getting out of tract with my priorities in life and there are also times that I struggle in understanding and fulfilling my purpose in life. However, every time I am on that situation, your inspirational videos and preaching in YouTube are my guidance in making decisions.
*
Please also include me in your prayers that I may be able to find my future wife. I am turning 35 this year. I know in my heart that one thing which will complement my life is to have a prudent wife and to raise my own family. I really believe on Proverbs 19:14 in the bible (A man can inherit a house and money from his parents, but only the Lord can give him a sensible wife) however, I am praying that I could find her soon. I am not getting younger anymore and as much as possible I want to build my family while I am still at the prime of my health and career so that I can provide their needs properly. More power to you and I am praying that God will to give you good health so that you can continue you mission in life. Thank you very much. I am hoping for your kind response.
A –
Dear Pamangkin D______,
Congratulations on attaining your goal. It is a great delight to know how you have fared in the past two yearssince we last PMd.
So much had happened!
*
Concerning your question about Day By Day's bank account, thank you for considering supporting the ministry. I shall look for our church's bank accounts and post the details here soonest.[ANGELS....PLS POST ANSWER!]
*
CONCERNING YOUR SEARCH FOR A GOD-GIVEN WIFE,
Do all practical things to increase your chances at meeting that wonderful lady.
Socialize more.
Ask concerned persons to look out for you and make "recommendations". :-).
Do keep me posted. Stay blessed!
-
PSGusto mo ba post tayo dito sa wall ko for those ladies to know about you? Maraming ladies are also praying for a God-given partner . :-)
* O narito na ang sagot ng angels:Manolet Concepcion Donations may be deposited at the following Day By Day accounts:
»Bank of the Philippine Islands
Vito Cruz Branch
Account name:
Day By Day Christian Ministries Inc.
Savings Account No.
3133-3337-96
»Metrobank Roxas Boulevard,
Vito Cruz Branch
Account name: DBD Christian Ministry
Current Account No.:
640-3-64004055-7
»Bank of Commerce Padre
Faura Branch
Account name: Day By Day Christian Ministries Inc.
Savings Account No.
100-00-000621-6
»Banco de Oro
SM Mall of Asia Branch
Account name: Day By Day Christian Ministries Inc.
Savings Account No.
2370055495
»Philippine National Bank
Macapagal Avenue Branch
Account name: Day By Day Christian Ministries
Account No.
3833-84000011
»Union Bank
Kamias Branch
Account name: Day By Day Christian Ministries
Current Account No.
048030001118
Most of the time, it seems that it's a case of
"IT'S NOT WHAT I SAID; IT'S WHAT YOU THOUGHT I SAID."
Or worse,
"IT'S WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY I SAID."
Any skilled communicator, especially the one with malice, could easily manipulate the interpretation of his words.
It is mainly because his verbal pronouncements are usually extemporaneous, spewed from raw emotional reactions to unintended or calculated provocations and obviously not pre-crafted by handlers for engineered effect.
His seeming lack of verbal eloquence and refinement gives his detractors much space to twist and distort the interpretation and implication of his statements.
It is observatble that most of the time, his statements are
- taken out of context,
- twisted to arouse anger against him and
- over sensationalized.
It seems that he is not really that verbally eloquent that what he says could be colored in many different shades depending on the agenda or malice of the ones interpreting him.
Q - Bakit po kaya may mga taong hindi makuntento sa isang lover-partner?
A -
Baka sobrang lawak ng isip at laki ng puso o dami ng needs na hindi tuloy kayang punuin ng isang tao lamang???
Q - Ang tagal na pong walang balita from my relatives. Worried tuloy ako.
A -
No news is good news.
Pag mabuti ang kalakaran ng buhay, people forget you.
Pag may masamang pangyayari, lalu pag kailangan ng tulong,
people will surely remember you.
Hahanapin ka nila kahit sa dulo ng mundo.
Bad news, especially their need for money, will have a way of finding you.
Q - Nakakasawa na po ang maraming manliligaw / lalaki na puro lang ang maganda kong face or skin or figure at iba pang panlabas na anyo ang laging pinupuri.
A -
Subukan mong magpaligaw sa mga x ray and ultrasound technicians;
baka mapuri nila ang iyong pancreas or small intestines?
Kung ibig mong mas marami ang makadalo sa party mo, sabihin mong
1. Bawal magdala ng regalo.
2. Puedeng suot kahit ano.
3. Puedeng magsama ng gustong isama.
(Maraming tao ay takot dumalo kasi baka wala silang kilala o makausap.)
Ang media ay
- negosyo at
- propaganda tool ng may-ari nito.
SInuhin ang may-ari at nasa likod ng
- slant
- editorializing and
- bias
of print or broadcast media.
Manuri.
Piliin at salain ang lululunin.
Kung ang basehan ng "alam" at opinion ay yun lang nababasa, nadirinig o napapanood sa mainstream media,
magdahan-dahan sa pagbuo ng paninindigan.
Baka nadadala at nabibiktima ka lang ng vested interest ng mga
producers or owners of those media outfits.
Style:
Pag hindi mo ma-attack ang isang tao sa tama nyang ginagawa,
1. Pagmukhain mong mali ang ginagagawa nya. O
2.Butasan / Hanapan mo ng maling detail ang overall tama nyang ginagawa. O
3. Palabuin mo ang isyu: maghanap at maglabas ka ng ibang problema. O
4. Palawakin at palakihin mo ang sunog; maghanap ka ng mga puedeng masulsulan para magalit, hindi dahil sa main issue kundi dahil sa mga isinali mong ibang issues. O
5. Takpan ang tunay ng issue ng malalawak at matatayog ng salita tulad ng
- Human Rights
- Women's Rights
- Democracy
- Freedom
- at ibat-ibang ISMs.
Tiyak may mga maaapektuhan at kakampi at sasama sa gierra mo.
"HUMAN RIGHTS"
could very well be clarified as
Human Group A's Rights vs. Human Group B's Rights
A human right stops being
- right
- a right
the moment it fringes upon another human being's rights.
Kung may ginagawang maganda ang isang tao pero may galit ka sa kanya,
1. Pinasasama mo ba ang maganda nyang gawa? O
2. Binabale-wala mo ba ang maganda nyang ginagawa at
NAGHAHANAP KA NG IBANG MAIPIPINTAS O MAIUUSIG sa kanya?
In any system or method in our imperfect world, it is inevitable that some persons or groups would fall in the cracks.
One only needs to decide WHO or WHAT TYPES could/would be allowed to be disadvantaged.
Every situation, project, method, etc has advantages and disadvantages.
One only needs to decide
- what advantage she really can't live without or
- what disadvantage he cannot afford.
For instance, in the government's war vs drugs,
1. What advantage does/will it give that we cannot live without?
2. What disadvantage does/will it give that we cannot afford
as a NATION and not as individuals, families, societies or political parties?
Q - Nakakatamad pong kausap ang mga kasama ko sa bahay.
Ambababaw at walang kalatuy-latuy ang mga sinasabi.
A -
Eh di minimize your conversation with them?
And when you must, consider it an act of charity?
Bumawi ka na lang by having meaningful and enjoyable conversations with other people?
Q - Ano po ang gagawin sa taong kung makipag-usap ay ang lapit-lapit ng mukha nya sa mukha ko at halus makagat na nya ako?
A -
Umatras ka?
Lumayu-layo.
Pag nagpilit pa ring sumugod,
sabihan mong lumayu-layo kasi nagiging far sighted ka?
Q - Kung may sakit po ako at may nagbigay ng perang pampagamot tapos bigla po akong gumaling nang may natira pang pera/balance, dapat ko po bang ibalik sa nagbigay?
A -
Magandang ibalik mo.
Kung talagang gusto nyang ibigay ulit yung sobra,
ibibigay naman nya.
Pogi points pa para sa yo!
Q - Nakakapagod pong kasama ang sobrang matatalino!
A -
Sabi naman ng iba, nakapapagod din daw kasama ang mga sobrang ____ ! :-)
Q - Tito Ed ....😊 tanong lang po kung ano po ba dapat pagusapan sa pamamanhikan in a modern christian way? Ano po mga dos and donts? Hehehe sa saturday na po pamamanhikan namin.
Salamat po at mabuhay ka Tito Ed! 😊
A -
Pamamanhikan is a formality. Pagtatagpo ng 2 pamilya. Noong araw pag menor de edad at dependents ang ikakasal, pinag-uusapan ng matatanda ang details ng kasalan, usually with demands from the side of the girl.
Sa ngayon, especially kung nasa edad na ang ikakasal at hindi na dependents (like sila ang gagasta sa kasalan),
hindi na pinag-uuspaan ang details. Yun nang lalake at babaing ikakasal ang bahala sa details. The pamamanhikan just becomes a formal meeting of the two families. Mga pleasant topics na lang ang pinag-uusapan.
Ang paghahanda at pag-iipon para sa mga gastos pag nagkasakit ay sa panahon BAGO magkasakit.
Q - Ang hirap naman pong umasenso kahit konti lang pag nag-iisa kang productive sa angkan nyo at halos lahat ay umaasa sa yo?
At mas mabigat pa sa loob, yung mga manghihingi ay wala namang nagawang mabuti sa yo. Tapos parang may patago?
A -
Wagas. :-)
Isang pasalamat: Productive ka at hindi pabigat
MAGPAKA-TAO
Never acquire somebody's cp number from unauthorized sources.
Never give someone's number to another person.
Kung gusto kang ka-text, ibibigay sa yo ang number nya.
Pag wala kang number nya...lam mo na!
Q - Ano po ang isang powerful secret ng successful business?
A -
Always give the customer maximum satisfaction.
Sa mga sobrang TAGUMPAY, suriin: may mga tatlo hanggang limang TAMA kayong sunud-sunod na ginawa.
Sa mga sobrang BIGO. suriin: may mga tatlo hanggang limang MALI kayong sunud-sunod na ginawa.
HINDI NAMAN BASTA-BASTA DUMADAPO ANG TAGUMPAY O KABIGUAN.
Hindi ganun-ganun lang kung dumating ang luwalhati o isang tagumpay sa buhay.
Madalas na ito ay bunga ng mga tatlo hanggang limang sunud-sunod at konektadong mga pangyayari / pagpapagal o paggawa ng tama.
Kailan ba matatawag na ang isang tao ay biktima ng kasawian
at kailan maituturing na sya mismo ang may likha at promotor nito?
May mga taong ang buhay ay naglalandas patungo sa kasaganaan at kapahingahan habang may mga kasabay silang kapwa manlalakbay na ang buhay ay naglalandas patungo sa kahirapan at kapaguran.
SAAN nagsasanga at naghihiwalay ang mga landas nila?
ANO ang pangunahing dahilan ng paghihiwalay ng mga landas?
PAANO mahahalata na ang landas na tinatahak ay patungo dito o doon?
ANO ang maaaring gawin upang matahak at malandas ang daang masagana at maginahawa?
Many people are so polite they do not want to leave any texts unanswered, especially those from people they consider to be their seniors or superiors.
Wala tuloy katapusan ang palitan ng texts.
THERE ARE TEXTS THAT ARE BETTER LEFT UNANSWERED, especially kung understood na o ceremonnial lang ang sagot.
Q - Proper po bang lahat ng "thank you" sa text ay sagutin din ng "you are welcome"?
A -
Generally yes.
But very busy people, who consider reading texts ---or ONE MORE text--- a chore, find it cumbersome to read a series of texts.
Pag sila ang nag-"thank you",
they appreciate not having to read another answer/ text from you saying "you are welcome".
Maraming empleado ang hindi gumagawa ng pinakatama kasi they are not empowered by the system/ their superiors to use their brains and solve problems.
They are not given the opportunity to make decisions that could placate / soothe / satisfy / please the customer.
The employees' concerns are
- to not break company rules / policy. .: Huwag mapagalitan.
- to please their corporate superiors, not the client.
They forget that CUSTOMER, not the supervisor, IS KING
10.55am.
Pumapasok ako sa isang resto sa Bonifacio GCity for a lunch-meeting.
Several waiters were sprawled on various seats.
One Waiter: "Ser, di pa po pwedeng pumasok. Eleven pa po kami magbubukas."
EL: "Huh!? Eh 1055 na! At bukas na talaga kayo.Alangan namang lumabas pa ko at pumasok ulit 5 minutes later?"
Waiter: "Wala pa po ang supervisor namin. Di pa po pwedeng magpaupo."
EL: "Dala ba ng supervisor nyo ang upuan?"
Waiter: "Hindi pa po talaga pwedeng pumasok."
*
Knowing the futility of reasoning under such circumstances, I marched out and proceeded to the other resto next door which gladly welcomed my business.
2 Important Ingredients of Envy:
1. The other person is strong (or perceived to be).
2. You are weak.
Q - Ano po ang magandang gawin sa memorial services para sa mga sumakabilang-buhay?
A -
Ayoko ng marami at mahahabang formal memorial services kung saan
- alam mo na ang laman ng paulit-ulti lang namang messages / sermons twing may memorial service.
- OA ang pagpuri sa dear departed na mukha nang propaganda-press con ang event.
- ang dami at ang hahaba ng mga video / visual presentations on the life of the dear departed.
- nae-emphasize ang drama at lungkot.
- hindi magapag-usap at makapag-interact ang mga tao kasi nga mahaba ang formal Service.
GUSTO ko,
- Informal lang ang event, except for a few well-placed "formal" services.
- Less than 30-40 minutes lang ang anumang formal memorial service para maraming oras magkwentuhan at mag-interact ang mga tao. Mas nakaka-destress at nakakapagpaluwag ng dibdib ang ganitong gawain.
Dapat yung mga dumarating, lalu na yung walang maraming oras to stay, ay makalapit agad sa coffin / ashes, sa mga bereaved, etc at hindi maimbak sa may likuran kasi may mahabang program na nagaganap nang dumating sila.
(And besides, hindi lahat ng pupunta sa lamay ay may kaparehong religious sensibilities.)
NAKAKADALA AT HINDI ENJOYABLE ang mahahabang memorial services. Tuloy, maraming tao na itinataon ang dalaw nila before or after the formal memorial service.
Q - Sa congregation po namin, madalas na pastors' wives ang mga wagas na alagad ng chismis. Kasi po sila ang may access to information known to their pastor-husbands at sila rin ang leaders ng maraming ministries, especially women's ministries.
Paano po kaya maiiwasan o masusugpo ang ganito?
A -
1. Huwag pag-asawahin ang mga pastor? :-) (Kaya lang baka magkaron ng himagsikan?)
2. Huwag bigyan ng leadership ministries ang pastors' wives?
(Another himagsikan?)
Make the pastors' wives stay at home?
Yun ang ministry nila: to be wives and home makers to their own husbands and not join their pastor-husbands in their public ministries.
(Kaya lang, maraming mahusay na pastors' wives and masasayang?)
Q - Bakit po kaya talamak ang chismis sa church namin?
A-
1. Marami lang talagang chismosa?
2. Marami kayong "family" events and other "fellowships" kung saan nagiging "close" kayo sa isat-isa.
Result: nagkaka-alaman ng mga isto-istorya na nag-i-inspire sa pagsilang ng maraming chismisan?
THE
- MORE FELLOWSHIPS
- "CLOSER" THE RELATIONSHIPS,
THE MORE CHISMISAN!
"Speak YOUR truth quietly and clearly..."
Just say what you want to say ---
post what you want to post ---
without having to explicitly challenge, oppose or refer to other ideas /posts / "truths".
BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE?
Q – Why can some very terrible “accidents”,
grave illnesses, horrible crimes, tragic deaths, etc happen to or against very godly, good and kind people, even morally upright religious leaders?
Why doesn’t God intervene to prevent such things from happening?
A -
The purest law of God is the law of nature.
God created nature and ordained natural laws to govern it.
Natural Law is above all man-made laws, including religious and moral law ---
all of which came much much later than Creation.
And one of Natural Law’s most basic principles is Cause and Effect.
Morality and religiosity, even righteousness or rightness,
exempt no one from natural law especially the rule of Cause and Effect.
If “terrible” things happen, there are causes that make them happen.
The morality of the persons involve does not ---cannot ---alter the outcome of natural cause and effect. For instance, even a 'holy man" could fall off a cliff because of the Law of Gravity.
Meanwhile,when natural law is bypassed, overruled or aborted, like when the natural and automatic “effect” is suppressed despite the “cause”,
that is called by believers as miracle.
A miracle is a suspension, bypassing, or superseding / cancellation of Natural Law for the sake of a beneficiary.
However, the Author of Natural Law should not always be expected to suspend it to accommodate various, sometimes even conflicting, individual or personal human agenda.
People who debate on religious issues do so NOT TO CONVERT each other as they both know that it would be impossible; they argue to win, not to lose and much less get converted.
They debate TO CONVERT their gullible and impressionable audiences who could get taken by an impressive theatrical performance.
MGA BASEHAN NG
- panunuri
- paghusga kung tama o mali, mabuti o masama
- paggusto o pag-ayaw
- pagpanig o pagsalungat / pagkampi o paglaban
SA IBANG TAO:
1. Known facts / Ang alam = Knowledge
2. Unknown facts = Ignorance
3. Standards subscribed to / Batayan ng tama o mali, mabuti o masama
4. Personal values, beliefs and aspirations, vested interest,
relations
5. Bias
6. Gut feel / Pakiramdam / Kutob
7. Posisyon o paninindigan ng mga taong malapit / mahalaga sa nanunuri.
8. Popular Opinion
MUNUNURI, SURIIN ANG
- PANUNURI.
- SARILI.
Q - Tito pls pray for me. May mental illness yata ako?!
A -
Relax pamangkin.
Lahat yata ng tao ay may mental illness hahahahah!
Iba-iba lang ng
- degress / levels
- anyo
- schedules / seasons.
(Tula ng isang makatang pamangkin na mukhang may hugot!? :-)
SA IYO NA DOKTRINA MO!
Sa iyo na doktrina mo
Kung makasigaw ka naman sa tao.
parang kang walang respeto.
Nilalamon mo pati ang kanyang pagkatao.
Sa iyo na doktrina mo
Kung may humingi naman ng tulong sa yo.
Nakita mo nang nanghihingalo.
Pinagiisipan mo pa kung tutulong ka dito.
Sa iyo na doktrina mo
Kung manapak ka naman ng asawa mo
Dahil ayon sa doktrina mo
Ang babae ay dapat magpasakop sa 'yo.
Sa iyo na ang doktrina mo
Kung gagamit ka lang ng karahasan
Para lamang mapatunayan
Na tama ang doktrina mo kahit may masasaktan.
Sa iyo na doktrina mo.
Kung ito'y pinipilit mo.
Na dapat paniwalaan ko.
Kasi ito ang gusto mo.
Sa iyo na doktrina mo.
Kung tingin mo superior ito.
Tinanong mo na ba sarili mo.
Kung pagmamahal meron sa iyo?
Sa iyo na doktrina mo.
Kung pagmamahal sa kapwa wala sa iyo.
Nakikipagaway ka pa ng todo todo.
Kasi alam mo tama doktrina mo.
SA IYO NA DOKTRINA MO!
Q - May gainful employment po ako pero hinikayat ako ng mga tao sa church namin na mag-fulltime sa ministry. Nahahati po ang loob ko.
A -
Hati pala ang loob mo, eh di keep your gainful employment and be a church volunteer worker!
Kaya naman yun.
Bihirang church work ang nangangailangan ng fulltime focus,
unless you were the office clerk that does administrative work.
Ang dami-daming free / idle time na maraming "fulltime" workers, believe Tito hahahahah!
Q - Ano po ang time (kung meron man) na hindi bastos ang pagwo-walk out...?
at kainlan naman po na ito bastos na gawin ng isang tao...?
A -
Laging kabastusan ang mag-walk out !
hahahahah!
Unless your core values are being assaulted in malicious, shameless and cruel ways.
Q - Paano ko po malalaman na called ako into full-time ministry?
A -
1. You have an internal conviction.
Hindi iba ang nagsasabi o kumukumbinsi sa yo.
You don't get manipulated or pressured by others who want you to do it.
2. You are gifted and skilled.
3. People love your ministration.
4. Doors open for you.
5. You heave great peace of mind about it.
Q - Mayron po ba kayong political color?
A -
Av Kors, pamangkin!
Matter occupies space, has weight and ----- political color!
And Tito is matter --- plus a concerned citizen of a very political country!
Hahahahahahahah!
WORRIED ka ba
- tungkol sa pagtanda, paghina ng katawan at kamatayan?
- na maghirap o mawalan ng pera?
- na mawala ang mahal mo sa buhay dahil baka maagaw ng iba?
- na mamatayan ng loved-ones?
- na magkasakit ka ng malubha?
- na mabigo?
- na mahirapan ng sobra?
- tungkol dito a doong mga takot?
If yes, magtigil ka!
Bawat isa sa pitong bilyong tao sa planeta at lahat ng mga nauna na sa ating mabuhay at mamatay---liban na lang sa sobra pang bata o baliw---ay may ganyang worries. Kaya hindi ka unique. Hindi ka nag-iisa. Bawat kilala mong tao may ganyang worries.
Wala rin namang nakalulutas ng worries na yan. Wala ring nakaka-solve kahit pa nga kung anu-anong pagpapayaman, pag-iimpok, pagpapalakas, atbp ang pilit ginagawa.
Wag ka na lang mag-worry. Ipasa-Diyos mo ang lahat. SYA! may magagawa! :-)
Ikaw? Enjoy life when alive and die when your time comes. Enjoy people when they are around and adjust when they are taken away. Enjoy what you have and be thankful when they are taken back by the Lender.
Don't worry.
Don't problematize life.
Ganun lang yun.
Q - Bakit po may mga posts kayo na non-religious ang themes?
A -
Why not?
May (mas) totoong buhay pa sa labas ng apat na pader ng simbahan, pamangkin! :-)
Mayrong Heaven on Earth
at
mayron ding Hell on Earth.
Lahat ng yan ---kasama na ang other-world / kabilang buhay ---
ay marapat pag-isipan. :-)
TUMUNTONG KA SA LUPA, PAMANGKIN.
Tao ka pa lang, hindi ka pa kerubin.
Q - Di po ba dapat "You should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers?"
A -
1. Ano ang ibig sabihin ng UNbeliever? Pag ba naniniwala sa God pero iba ang religion / religious denomination / sect ay UNbeliever na nga?
SINO ang UNbeliever?
2.
Paano mo malalaman na IKAW ang believer at yung IBA ang UNbeliever?
Q - Sobra-sobra po kaming nagmamahalan ng BF ko and we are really happy with each other. Pero magkaaway na mortal ang religions ng respective families namin.
Will we give up each other because of the opposing religious beliefs?
Baka po hindi na kami makakita ng true love na ganito!
A -
Your religious issues are BELIEFS, NOT KNOWLEDGE.
Hindi nyo naman talaga alam/ sure kung sino sa inyo ang tama o kung pareho bang tama o parehong mali ang religious beliefs nyo.
Faith kasi yan.
Meanwhile,
that you love each other very much,
that you are happy together,
THAT IS KNOWLEDGE.
Alam nyo talaga.
If I were the two of you,
I would seek personal/ private spirituality ---magkahiwalay ng religious practice if needed --- pero ise-save at itutuloy ko ang maganda nyong personal relationship. Yan ay kung kaya nyong i-handle ang ganyang difference.
Madaling humanap at sumali sa religion ----
(And no one is really sure na sila nga nag tama at mali nga yung iba.
Kanya-kanyang paniniwala yan sa kanya-kanyang relihiyon! )
---- pero mahirap magkaron ng true and beautiful love. :-)
Ganun din sa friendships.
Huwag makipagkasira sa kaibigan dahil lang nagsanga at nagkahiwalay ang inyong religious memberships!
(Pareho lang namang nagpipilit ang inyu-inyong religions na sila ang tama at mali ang iba. Who could really know?
Kahit nga sa mga nagsasabing naniniwala sila sa identical scriptures, iba-iba pa rin ang interpretations and applications nila.)
SAYANG ANG LOVE, ANG FRIENDSHIP kung babale-walain dahil sa myopic / narrow religious sentiments.
Huwag na huwag pintasan ang sariling asawa sa harap ng pamilya / mga kamag-anak nya.
They will hate you!
Q - Ang BF ko po hindi marunong kumain ng good foods. Lumaki po kasi na halos wala silang makain dahil sobrang poor. Hindi po nadevelop ang culinary taste! What a problem!! Heeeeeelp!
A -
1. Tanggapin mo sya ng buo, kasama na ang taste nya for food.
2. Turuan mo unti-unti to appreciate a variety of foods.
Turuan mo rin ang sarili mo to appreciate his kind of food.
3. Let him eat what he likes and you eat what you like!
Bigayan kayo when you eat together.
Minsan dun sa gusto nya.
Minsan sa gusto mo.
Hwag mo problemahin yan.
At least my BF ka
Q - What is a good gift to celebrity friends and relatives?
A -
Privacy, peace and anonymity.
Do not make them "perform" as celebrities in your private gatherings.
Enough of the nonstop kuhanan ng pictures!
Let them relax, be at ease, and have a good, private time
"Love is like holding a handful of sand;
squeeze tightly and it slides out through your fingers;
relax and it stays."
Q - Paano po makakaiwas sa (romantic) heart ache ?
A -
Kung
- ayaw sa yo
- di ka masyadong gusto
EH DI WAG!
Q - Ano po ang magandang gawin kung laging ako ang nakikiusap sa BF ko na bigyan ako ng time?
A -
TURN THE TABLE, pamangkin!
Baligtarin mo ang mundo.
GET SCARCE!
MAWALA KA, MAGLAHO, MAGTAGO.
Pag hinahanap ka, hinabul-habol at pinagmakaawaang makasama nya,
pagbigyan mo. :-) He is worth it.
Pero pag wa-epek ang drama mo --- hindi ka hinanap-hanap,
inasam-asam, hinabul-habol, etc --- lam mo na!
(Kumanta ng Leron Leron Sinta!)
Kasuyang kasama yung laging dapat panalo:
yung laging dapat MAS
- mayaman ang tita nya sa tita mo
- maganda ang anak nya sa anak mo
- matalino ang apo nya sa apo mo
- matalino sya kesa sa yo
atbp
Nakakapagod at nakasasawang kasama yung laging may
- pintas
- better idea
- last say.
Stay away from complainers and fault finders: papangit lang ang paningin mo sa mundo.
Never travel with a complainer or a fault finder.
Mabubwisit lang ang trip mo.
Q - Tito what is the best way to enjoy free time/ a whole day?
A -
Go where you want to go -
Do what you want to do - ALONE!
Mahirap mag-enjoy nang may kasamang
- only half interested.
- kailangang i-entertain o pakiramdaman.
- nagmamadali o nabo-bore.
Kung may isasama, tiyaking vibes talaga kayo ---
yung makaka-enhance sya sa experience,
hindi pabigat.
ONE of the most
- effective
- time-saving
- economical
- enjoyable
- touching
singular activities that could
- inform
- educate
- instruct
- broaden one's mind
- inspire:
WATCHING A REALLY GOOD FILM
At best, it could bear great fruits.
Kundiman, LILIPAS din yun.
Huwag magyabang kung papataas; kasi papataas ka pa LANG.
Lalung huwag magyabang kung nasa pinakataas ka ngayon
kasi ang kasunod na nyan ay pagbaba.
AFTER THE HIGH NOON FOLLOWS THE AFTERNOON.
Habang papataas ang araw at papalapit sa pinakamataas na punto sa langit
ay papalapit na rin ito sa pagbaba at paglubog.
Q - Tito do u believe sa blessings o mga paghagis ng barya,etc when u open business for the very first time? Pra daw po swertihin ang negosyo tlga? Kasi wla ako idea sa ganun.
A -
No big deal. Makisakay na lang. wala namang masama. Pampasaya
:-)
Ed Lapiz
October 3, 2014 ·
Q -I feel so low.. I know I dont have the right to question God, I know all His plans are for us to be better. I know all the temptations are only to strengthen us, and He will not give us a test or temptation that we cannot handle and get over with.. I know that when we are becoming closer to Him, using our body, talent, everything we have are for His glory then satan will be like lion hunting us to stop. I know that, pero parang ngaun, naiisip ko, parang ayoko nlng maging active sa church, parang ayoko nlng magpagamit sa church for God's glory, kase as I assess myself, when test comes, I fail to be strong. I know that it should be learned as a test to be stronger. Nung youth ako naging active ako then temptation comes, I fail to over come it. Tpos nung bumalik nako ngaun mas mature nako, temptation came and I fail again. Ngaun, kung kelan mas marami nakong narinig na teaching about temptation na dapat I-over come after maging mas malapit sa Diyos, or nagpapagamit sa ministry, ngaun I am asking God, why does He have to give me these temptations that I cannot win over, I am weak when it comes to choosing whom to love, and yet all the test that He is giving me is about that. I know I should not question Him, but I am being eaten by this situation. I need someone to talk to pastor, but I am pushing everyone who attempts to. Why God has to give me a test that He knows I am failing? Is it to make me strong and eventually over come it? I cried to Him and asked Him why.. am I sinning again for this? Im feeling that He is disappointed to me and turn His back on me, but I know, I am the one turning my back on Him, that He is just waiting for me to call Him and come back to Him. Mababaliw nako pastor..
A -
Most of our impressions and assumtions about God are manufactured by preachers, teachers and the church out of what was taught them by traditional theology. You need to question those assumptions, like the ones you enumerated here. God is good, kind, understanding and forgiving --- and no theologizing should hide or contradict that basic truth.
Just keep doing good, serving him in the process. Do not hate yourself when you fall; God still loves you no matter what. Just do your best. That should be good enough. No one is perfect. Do not allow other people's interpretations of scripture and notions about God make you always feel guilty and undeserving of God's kindness.
Q - Dearest Pastor Ed, Greetings! It has been almost two years when I ask your opinion about my plans of __________. (I am not sure Pastor if you still remember me).
I ...sent you a message about my struggles (in my profession) and challenges in (my life) .
I would like to express my appreciation for the advice and the enlightenment that you gave to me when I was making my decision. I am happy to inform you that I am now (in a situation where I could only be thankful to God as I am quite satisfied and happy.)
*
I believe it is time for me to give back and to share the blessings that I am continuously receiving. In this regard, I would like to know how I could send (funds) to your church for my tithe/donation. May I ask if your church has a bank account where I can send money? I still have immediate family in the Philippines whom I can ask to do the bank transaction for me. Kindly send me the bank name and the account information so that I can proceed with the transaction.
*
Pastor Ed, more than words can say but you are really a blessing to me. There are times that I am getting out of tract with my priorities in life and there are also times that I struggle in understanding and fulfilling my purpose in life. However, every time I am on that situation, your inspirational videos and preaching in YouTube are my guidance in making decisions.
*
Please also include me in your prayers that I may be able to find my future wife. I am turning 35 this year. I know in my heart that one thing which will complement my life is to have a prudent wife and to raise my own family. I really believe on Proverbs 19:14 in the bible (A man can inherit a house and money from his parents, but only the Lord can give him a sensible wife) however, I am praying that I could find her soon. I am not getting younger anymore and as much as possible I want to build my family while I am still at the prime of my health and career so that I can provide their needs properly. More power to you and I am praying that God will to give you good health so that you can continue you mission in life. Thank you very much. I am hoping for your kind response.
A –
Dear Pamangkin D______,
Congratulations on attaining your goal. It is a great delight to know how you have fared in the past two yearssince we last PMd.
So much had happened!
*
Concerning your question about Day By Day's bank account, thank you for considering supporting the ministry. I shall look for our church's bank accounts and post the details here soonest.[ANGELS....PLS POST ANSWER!]
*
CONCERNING YOUR SEARCH FOR A GOD-GIVEN WIFE,
Do all practical things to increase your chances at meeting that wonderful lady.
Socialize more.
Ask concerned persons to look out for you and make "recommendations". :-).
Do keep me posted. Stay blessed!
-
PSGusto mo ba post tayo dito sa wall ko for those ladies to know about you? Maraming ladies are also praying for a God-given partner . :-)
* O narito na ang sagot ng angels:Manolet Concepcion Donations may be deposited at the following Day By Day accounts:
»Bank of the Philippine Islands
Vito Cruz Branch
Account name:
Day By Day Christian Ministries Inc.
Savings Account No.
3133-3337-96
»Metrobank Roxas Boulevard,
Vito Cruz Branch
Account name: DBD Christian Ministry
Current Account No.:
640-3-64004055-7
»Bank of Commerce Padre
Faura Branch
Account name: Day By Day Christian Ministries Inc.
Savings Account No.
100-00-000621-6
»Banco de Oro
SM Mall of Asia Branch
Account name: Day By Day Christian Ministries Inc.
Savings Account No.
2370055495
»Philippine National Bank
Macapagal Avenue Branch
Account name: Day By Day Christian Ministries
Account No.
3833-84000011
»Union Bank
Kamias Branch
Account name: Day By Day Christian Ministries
Current Account No.
048030001118
Most of the time, it seems that it's a case of
"IT'S NOT WHAT I SAID; IT'S WHAT YOU THOUGHT I SAID."
Or worse,
"IT'S WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY I SAID."
Any skilled communicator, especially the one with malice, could easily manipulate the interpretation of his words.
It is mainly because his verbal pronouncements are usually extemporaneous, spewed from raw emotional reactions to unintended or calculated provocations and obviously not pre-crafted by handlers for engineered effect.
His seeming lack of verbal eloquence and refinement gives his detractors much space to twist and distort the interpretation and implication of his statements.
It is observatble that most of the time, his statements are
- taken out of context,
- twisted to arouse anger against him and
- over sensationalized.
It seems that he is not really that verbally eloquent that what he says could be colored in many different shades depending on the agenda or malice of the ones interpreting him.
Q - Bakit po kaya may mga taong hindi makuntento sa isang lover-partner?
A -
Baka sobrang lawak ng isip at laki ng puso o dami ng needs na hindi tuloy kayang punuin ng isang tao lamang???
Q - Ang tagal na pong walang balita from my relatives. Worried tuloy ako.
A -
No news is good news.
Pag mabuti ang kalakaran ng buhay, people forget you.
Pag may masamang pangyayari, lalu pag kailangan ng tulong,
people will surely remember you.
Hahanapin ka nila kahit sa dulo ng mundo.
Bad news, especially their need for money, will have a way of finding you.
Q - Nakakasawa na po ang maraming manliligaw / lalaki na puro lang ang maganda kong face or skin or figure at iba pang panlabas na anyo ang laging pinupuri.
A -
Subukan mong magpaligaw sa mga x ray and ultrasound technicians;
baka mapuri nila ang iyong pancreas or small intestines?
Kung ibig mong mas marami ang makadalo sa party mo, sabihin mong
1. Bawal magdala ng regalo.
2. Puedeng suot kahit ano.
3. Puedeng magsama ng gustong isama.
(Maraming tao ay takot dumalo kasi baka wala silang kilala o makausap.)
Ang media ay
- negosyo at
- propaganda tool ng may-ari nito.
SInuhin ang may-ari at nasa likod ng
- slant
- editorializing and
- bias
of print or broadcast media.
Manuri.
Piliin at salain ang lululunin.
Kung ang basehan ng "alam" at opinion ay yun lang nababasa, nadirinig o napapanood sa mainstream media,
magdahan-dahan sa pagbuo ng paninindigan.
Baka nadadala at nabibiktima ka lang ng vested interest ng mga
producers or owners of those media outfits.
Style:
Pag hindi mo ma-attack ang isang tao sa tama nyang ginagawa,
1. Pagmukhain mong mali ang ginagagawa nya. O
2.Butasan / Hanapan mo ng maling detail ang overall tama nyang ginagawa. O
3. Palabuin mo ang isyu: maghanap at maglabas ka ng ibang problema. O
4. Palawakin at palakihin mo ang sunog; maghanap ka ng mga puedeng masulsulan para magalit, hindi dahil sa main issue kundi dahil sa mga isinali mong ibang issues. O
5. Takpan ang tunay ng issue ng malalawak at matatayog ng salita tulad ng
- Human Rights
- Women's Rights
- Democracy
- Freedom
- at ibat-ibang ISMs.
Tiyak may mga maaapektuhan at kakampi at sasama sa gierra mo.
"HUMAN RIGHTS"
could very well be clarified as
Human Group A's Rights vs. Human Group B's Rights
A human right stops being
- right
- a right
the moment it fringes upon another human being's rights.
Kung may ginagawang maganda ang isang tao pero may galit ka sa kanya,
1. Pinasasama mo ba ang maganda nyang gawa? O
2. Binabale-wala mo ba ang maganda nyang ginagawa at
NAGHAHANAP KA NG IBANG MAIPIPINTAS O MAIUUSIG sa kanya?
In any system or method in our imperfect world, it is inevitable that some persons or groups would fall in the cracks.
One only needs to decide WHO or WHAT TYPES could/would be allowed to be disadvantaged.
Every situation, project, method, etc has advantages and disadvantages.
One only needs to decide
- what advantage she really can't live without or
- what disadvantage he cannot afford.
For instance, in the government's war vs drugs,
1. What advantage does/will it give that we cannot live without?
2. What disadvantage does/will it give that we cannot afford
as a NATION and not as individuals, families, societies or political parties?
Q - Nakakatamad pong kausap ang mga kasama ko sa bahay.
Ambababaw at walang kalatuy-latuy ang mga sinasabi.
A -
Eh di minimize your conversation with them?
And when you must, consider it an act of charity?
Bumawi ka na lang by having meaningful and enjoyable conversations with other people?
Q - Ano po ang gagawin sa taong kung makipag-usap ay ang lapit-lapit ng mukha nya sa mukha ko at halus makagat na nya ako?
A -
Umatras ka?
Lumayu-layo.
Pag nagpilit pa ring sumugod,
sabihan mong lumayu-layo kasi nagiging far sighted ka?
Q - Kung may sakit po ako at may nagbigay ng perang pampagamot tapos bigla po akong gumaling nang may natira pang pera/balance, dapat ko po bang ibalik sa nagbigay?
A -
Magandang ibalik mo.
Kung talagang gusto nyang ibigay ulit yung sobra,
ibibigay naman nya.
Pogi points pa para sa yo!
Q - Nakakapagod pong kasama ang sobrang matatalino!
A -
Sabi naman ng iba, nakapapagod din daw kasama ang mga sobrang ____ ! :-)
Q - Tito Ed ....😊 tanong lang po kung ano po ba dapat pagusapan sa pamamanhikan in a modern christian way? Ano po mga dos and donts? Hehehe sa saturday na po pamamanhikan namin.
Salamat po at mabuhay ka Tito Ed! 😊
A -
Pamamanhikan is a formality. Pagtatagpo ng 2 pamilya. Noong araw pag menor de edad at dependents ang ikakasal, pinag-uusapan ng matatanda ang details ng kasalan, usually with demands from the side of the girl.
Sa ngayon, especially kung nasa edad na ang ikakasal at hindi na dependents (like sila ang gagasta sa kasalan),
hindi na pinag-uuspaan ang details. Yun nang lalake at babaing ikakasal ang bahala sa details. The pamamanhikan just becomes a formal meeting of the two families. Mga pleasant topics na lang ang pinag-uusapan.
Ang paghahanda at pag-iipon para sa mga gastos pag nagkasakit ay sa panahon BAGO magkasakit.
Q - Ang hirap naman pong umasenso kahit konti lang pag nag-iisa kang productive sa angkan nyo at halos lahat ay umaasa sa yo?
At mas mabigat pa sa loob, yung mga manghihingi ay wala namang nagawang mabuti sa yo. Tapos parang may patago?
A -
Wagas. :-)
Isang pasalamat: Productive ka at hindi pabigat
MAGPAKA-TAO
Never acquire somebody's cp number from unauthorized sources.
Never give someone's number to another person.
Kung gusto kang ka-text, ibibigay sa yo ang number nya.
Pag wala kang number nya...lam mo na!
Q - Ano po ang isang powerful secret ng successful business?
A -
Always give the customer maximum satisfaction.
Sa mga sobrang TAGUMPAY, suriin: may mga tatlo hanggang limang TAMA kayong sunud-sunod na ginawa.
Sa mga sobrang BIGO. suriin: may mga tatlo hanggang limang MALI kayong sunud-sunod na ginawa.
HINDI NAMAN BASTA-BASTA DUMADAPO ANG TAGUMPAY O KABIGUAN.
Hindi ganun-ganun lang kung dumating ang luwalhati o isang tagumpay sa buhay.
Madalas na ito ay bunga ng mga tatlo hanggang limang sunud-sunod at konektadong mga pangyayari / pagpapagal o paggawa ng tama.
Kailan ba matatawag na ang isang tao ay biktima ng kasawian
at kailan maituturing na sya mismo ang may likha at promotor nito?
May mga taong ang buhay ay naglalandas patungo sa kasaganaan at kapahingahan habang may mga kasabay silang kapwa manlalakbay na ang buhay ay naglalandas patungo sa kahirapan at kapaguran.
SAAN nagsasanga at naghihiwalay ang mga landas nila?
ANO ang pangunahing dahilan ng paghihiwalay ng mga landas?
PAANO mahahalata na ang landas na tinatahak ay patungo dito o doon?
ANO ang maaaring gawin upang matahak at malandas ang daang masagana at maginahawa?
Many people are so polite they do not want to leave any texts unanswered, especially those from people they consider to be their seniors or superiors.
Wala tuloy katapusan ang palitan ng texts.
THERE ARE TEXTS THAT ARE BETTER LEFT UNANSWERED, especially kung understood na o ceremonnial lang ang sagot.
Q - Proper po bang lahat ng "thank you" sa text ay sagutin din ng "you are welcome"?
A -
Generally yes.
But very busy people, who consider reading texts ---or ONE MORE text--- a chore, find it cumbersome to read a series of texts.
Pag sila ang nag-"thank you",
they appreciate not having to read another answer/ text from you saying "you are welcome".
Maraming empleado ang hindi gumagawa ng pinakatama kasi they are not empowered by the system/ their superiors to use their brains and solve problems.
They are not given the opportunity to make decisions that could placate / soothe / satisfy / please the customer.
The employees' concerns are
- to not break company rules / policy. .: Huwag mapagalitan.
- to please their corporate superiors, not the client.
They forget that CUSTOMER, not the supervisor, IS KING
10.55am.
Pumapasok ako sa isang resto sa Bonifacio GCity for a lunch-meeting.
Several waiters were sprawled on various seats.
One Waiter: "Ser, di pa po pwedeng pumasok. Eleven pa po kami magbubukas."
EL: "Huh!? Eh 1055 na! At bukas na talaga kayo.Alangan namang lumabas pa ko at pumasok ulit 5 minutes later?"
Waiter: "Wala pa po ang supervisor namin. Di pa po pwedeng magpaupo."
EL: "Dala ba ng supervisor nyo ang upuan?"
Waiter: "Hindi pa po talaga pwedeng pumasok."
*
Knowing the futility of reasoning under such circumstances, I marched out and proceeded to the other resto next door which gladly welcomed my business.
2 Important Ingredients of Envy:
1. The other person is strong (or perceived to be).
2. You are weak.
Q - Ano po ang magandang gawin sa memorial services para sa mga sumakabilang-buhay?
A -
Ayoko ng marami at mahahabang formal memorial services kung saan
- alam mo na ang laman ng paulit-ulti lang namang messages / sermons twing may memorial service.
- OA ang pagpuri sa dear departed na mukha nang propaganda-press con ang event.
- ang dami at ang hahaba ng mga video / visual presentations on the life of the dear departed.
- nae-emphasize ang drama at lungkot.
- hindi magapag-usap at makapag-interact ang mga tao kasi nga mahaba ang formal Service.
GUSTO ko,
- Informal lang ang event, except for a few well-placed "formal" services.
- Less than 30-40 minutes lang ang anumang formal memorial service para maraming oras magkwentuhan at mag-interact ang mga tao. Mas nakaka-destress at nakakapagpaluwag ng dibdib ang ganitong gawain.
Dapat yung mga dumarating, lalu na yung walang maraming oras to stay, ay makalapit agad sa coffin / ashes, sa mga bereaved, etc at hindi maimbak sa may likuran kasi may mahabang program na nagaganap nang dumating sila.
(And besides, hindi lahat ng pupunta sa lamay ay may kaparehong religious sensibilities.)
NAKAKADALA AT HINDI ENJOYABLE ang mahahabang memorial services. Tuloy, maraming tao na itinataon ang dalaw nila before or after the formal memorial service.
Q - Sa congregation po namin, madalas na pastors' wives ang mga wagas na alagad ng chismis. Kasi po sila ang may access to information known to their pastor-husbands at sila rin ang leaders ng maraming ministries, especially women's ministries.
Paano po kaya maiiwasan o masusugpo ang ganito?
A -
1. Huwag pag-asawahin ang mga pastor? :-) (Kaya lang baka magkaron ng himagsikan?)
2. Huwag bigyan ng leadership ministries ang pastors' wives?
(Another himagsikan?)
Make the pastors' wives stay at home?
Yun ang ministry nila: to be wives and home makers to their own husbands and not join their pastor-husbands in their public ministries.
(Kaya lang, maraming mahusay na pastors' wives and masasayang?)
Q - Bakit po kaya talamak ang chismis sa church namin?
A-
1. Marami lang talagang chismosa?
2. Marami kayong "family" events and other "fellowships" kung saan nagiging "close" kayo sa isat-isa.
Result: nagkaka-alaman ng mga isto-istorya na nag-i-inspire sa pagsilang ng maraming chismisan?
THE
- MORE FELLOWSHIPS
- "CLOSER" THE RELATIONSHIPS,
THE MORE CHISMISAN!
"Speak YOUR truth quietly and clearly..."
Just say what you want to say ---
post what you want to post ---
without having to explicitly challenge, oppose or refer to other ideas /posts / "truths".
BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE?
Q – Why can some very terrible “accidents”,
grave illnesses, horrible crimes, tragic deaths, etc happen to or against very godly, good and kind people, even morally upright religious leaders?
Why doesn’t God intervene to prevent such things from happening?
A -
The purest law of God is the law of nature.
God created nature and ordained natural laws to govern it.
Natural Law is above all man-made laws, including religious and moral law ---
all of which came much much later than Creation.
And one of Natural Law’s most basic principles is Cause and Effect.
Morality and religiosity, even righteousness or rightness,
exempt no one from natural law especially the rule of Cause and Effect.
If “terrible” things happen, there are causes that make them happen.
The morality of the persons involve does not ---cannot ---alter the outcome of natural cause and effect. For instance, even a 'holy man" could fall off a cliff because of the Law of Gravity.
Meanwhile,when natural law is bypassed, overruled or aborted, like when the natural and automatic “effect” is suppressed despite the “cause”,
that is called by believers as miracle.
A miracle is a suspension, bypassing, or superseding / cancellation of Natural Law for the sake of a beneficiary.
However, the Author of Natural Law should not always be expected to suspend it to accommodate various, sometimes even conflicting, individual or personal human agenda.
People who debate on religious issues do so NOT TO CONVERT each other as they both know that it would be impossible; they argue to win, not to lose and much less get converted.
They debate TO CONVERT their gullible and impressionable audiences who could get taken by an impressive theatrical performance.
MGA BASEHAN NG
- panunuri
- paghusga kung tama o mali, mabuti o masama
- paggusto o pag-ayaw
- pagpanig o pagsalungat / pagkampi o paglaban
SA IBANG TAO:
1. Known facts / Ang alam = Knowledge
2. Unknown facts = Ignorance
3. Standards subscribed to / Batayan ng tama o mali, mabuti o masama
4. Personal values, beliefs and aspirations, vested interest,
relations
5. Bias
6. Gut feel / Pakiramdam / Kutob
7. Posisyon o paninindigan ng mga taong malapit / mahalaga sa nanunuri.
8. Popular Opinion
MUNUNURI, SURIIN ANG
- PANUNURI.
- SARILI.
Q - Tito pls pray for me. May mental illness yata ako?!
A -
Relax pamangkin.
Lahat yata ng tao ay may mental illness hahahahah!
Iba-iba lang ng
- degress / levels
- anyo
- schedules / seasons.
(Tula ng isang makatang pamangkin na mukhang may hugot!? :-)
SA IYO NA DOKTRINA MO!
Sa iyo na doktrina mo
Kung makasigaw ka naman sa tao.
parang kang walang respeto.
Nilalamon mo pati ang kanyang pagkatao.
Sa iyo na doktrina mo
Kung may humingi naman ng tulong sa yo.
Nakita mo nang nanghihingalo.
Pinagiisipan mo pa kung tutulong ka dito.
Sa iyo na doktrina mo
Kung manapak ka naman ng asawa mo
Dahil ayon sa doktrina mo
Ang babae ay dapat magpasakop sa 'yo.
Sa iyo na ang doktrina mo
Kung gagamit ka lang ng karahasan
Para lamang mapatunayan
Na tama ang doktrina mo kahit may masasaktan.
Sa iyo na doktrina mo.
Kung ito'y pinipilit mo.
Na dapat paniwalaan ko.
Kasi ito ang gusto mo.
Sa iyo na doktrina mo.
Kung tingin mo superior ito.
Tinanong mo na ba sarili mo.
Kung pagmamahal meron sa iyo?
Sa iyo na doktrina mo.
Kung pagmamahal sa kapwa wala sa iyo.
Nakikipagaway ka pa ng todo todo.
Kasi alam mo tama doktrina mo.
SA IYO NA DOKTRINA MO!
Q - May gainful employment po ako pero hinikayat ako ng mga tao sa church namin na mag-fulltime sa ministry. Nahahati po ang loob ko.
A -
Hati pala ang loob mo, eh di keep your gainful employment and be a church volunteer worker!
Kaya naman yun.
Bihirang church work ang nangangailangan ng fulltime focus,
unless you were the office clerk that does administrative work.
Ang dami-daming free / idle time na maraming "fulltime" workers, believe Tito hahahahah!
Q - Ano po ang time (kung meron man) na hindi bastos ang pagwo-walk out...?
at kainlan naman po na ito bastos na gawin ng isang tao...?
A -
Laging kabastusan ang mag-walk out !
hahahahah!
Unless your core values are being assaulted in malicious, shameless and cruel ways.
Q - Paano ko po malalaman na called ako into full-time ministry?
A -
1. You have an internal conviction.
Hindi iba ang nagsasabi o kumukumbinsi sa yo.
You don't get manipulated or pressured by others who want you to do it.
2. You are gifted and skilled.
3. People love your ministration.
4. Doors open for you.
5. You heave great peace of mind about it.
Q - Mayron po ba kayong political color?
A -
Av Kors, pamangkin!
Matter occupies space, has weight and ----- political color!
And Tito is matter --- plus a concerned citizen of a very political country!
Hahahahahahahah!
WORRIED ka ba
- tungkol sa pagtanda, paghina ng katawan at kamatayan?
- na maghirap o mawalan ng pera?
- na mawala ang mahal mo sa buhay dahil baka maagaw ng iba?
- na mamatayan ng loved-ones?
- na magkasakit ka ng malubha?
- na mabigo?
- na mahirapan ng sobra?
- tungkol dito a doong mga takot?
If yes, magtigil ka!
Bawat isa sa pitong bilyong tao sa planeta at lahat ng mga nauna na sa ating mabuhay at mamatay---liban na lang sa sobra pang bata o baliw---ay may ganyang worries. Kaya hindi ka unique. Hindi ka nag-iisa. Bawat kilala mong tao may ganyang worries.
Wala rin namang nakalulutas ng worries na yan. Wala ring nakaka-solve kahit pa nga kung anu-anong pagpapayaman, pag-iimpok, pagpapalakas, atbp ang pilit ginagawa.
Wag ka na lang mag-worry. Ipasa-Diyos mo ang lahat. SYA! may magagawa! :-)
Ikaw? Enjoy life when alive and die when your time comes. Enjoy people when they are around and adjust when they are taken away. Enjoy what you have and be thankful when they are taken back by the Lender.
Don't worry.
Don't problematize life.
Ganun lang yun.
Q - Bakit po may mga posts kayo na non-religious ang themes?
A -
Why not?
May (mas) totoong buhay pa sa labas ng apat na pader ng simbahan, pamangkin! :-)
Mayrong Heaven on Earth
at
mayron ding Hell on Earth.
Lahat ng yan ---kasama na ang other-world / kabilang buhay ---
ay marapat pag-isipan. :-)
TUMUNTONG KA SA LUPA, PAMANGKIN.
Tao ka pa lang, hindi ka pa kerubin.
Q - Di po ba dapat "You should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers?"
A -
1. Ano ang ibig sabihin ng UNbeliever? Pag ba naniniwala sa God pero iba ang religion / religious denomination / sect ay UNbeliever na nga?
SINO ang UNbeliever?
2.
Paano mo malalaman na IKAW ang believer at yung IBA ang UNbeliever?
Q - Sobra-sobra po kaming nagmamahalan ng BF ko and we are really happy with each other. Pero magkaaway na mortal ang religions ng respective families namin.
Will we give up each other because of the opposing religious beliefs?
Baka po hindi na kami makakita ng true love na ganito!
A -
Your religious issues are BELIEFS, NOT KNOWLEDGE.
Hindi nyo naman talaga alam/ sure kung sino sa inyo ang tama o kung pareho bang tama o parehong mali ang religious beliefs nyo.
Faith kasi yan.
Meanwhile,
that you love each other very much,
that you are happy together,
THAT IS KNOWLEDGE.
Alam nyo talaga.
If I were the two of you,
I would seek personal/ private spirituality ---magkahiwalay ng religious practice if needed --- pero ise-save at itutuloy ko ang maganda nyong personal relationship. Yan ay kung kaya nyong i-handle ang ganyang difference.
Madaling humanap at sumali sa religion ----
(And no one is really sure na sila nga nag tama at mali nga yung iba.
Kanya-kanyang paniniwala yan sa kanya-kanyang relihiyon! )
---- pero mahirap magkaron ng true and beautiful love. :-)
Ganun din sa friendships.
Huwag makipagkasira sa kaibigan dahil lang nagsanga at nagkahiwalay ang inyong religious memberships!
(Pareho lang namang nagpipilit ang inyu-inyong religions na sila ang tama at mali ang iba. Who could really know?
Kahit nga sa mga nagsasabing naniniwala sila sa identical scriptures, iba-iba pa rin ang interpretations and applications nila.)
SAYANG ANG LOVE, ANG FRIENDSHIP kung babale-walain dahil sa myopic / narrow religious sentiments.
Huwag na huwag pintasan ang sariling asawa sa harap ng pamilya / mga kamag-anak nya.
They will hate you!
Q - Ang BF ko po hindi marunong kumain ng good foods. Lumaki po kasi na halos wala silang makain dahil sobrang poor. Hindi po nadevelop ang culinary taste! What a problem!! Heeeeeelp!
A -
1. Tanggapin mo sya ng buo, kasama na ang taste nya for food.
2. Turuan mo unti-unti to appreciate a variety of foods.
Turuan mo rin ang sarili mo to appreciate his kind of food.
3. Let him eat what he likes and you eat what you like!
Bigayan kayo when you eat together.
Minsan dun sa gusto nya.
Minsan sa gusto mo.
Hwag mo problemahin yan.
At least my BF ka
Q - What is a good gift to celebrity friends and relatives?
A -
Privacy, peace and anonymity.
Do not make them "perform" as celebrities in your private gatherings.
Enough of the nonstop kuhanan ng pictures!
Let them relax, be at ease, and have a good, private time
"Love is like holding a handful of sand;
squeeze tightly and it slides out through your fingers;
relax and it stays."
Q - Paano po makakaiwas sa (romantic) heart ache ?
A -
Kung
- ayaw sa yo
- di ka masyadong gusto
EH DI WAG!
Q - Ano po ang magandang gawin kung laging ako ang nakikiusap sa BF ko na bigyan ako ng time?
A -
TURN THE TABLE, pamangkin!
Baligtarin mo ang mundo.
GET SCARCE!
MAWALA KA, MAGLAHO, MAGTAGO.
Pag hinahanap ka, hinabul-habol at pinagmakaawaang makasama nya,
pagbigyan mo. :-) He is worth it.
Pero pag wa-epek ang drama mo --- hindi ka hinanap-hanap,
inasam-asam, hinabul-habol, etc --- lam mo na!
(Kumanta ng Leron Leron Sinta!)
Kasuyang kasama yung laging dapat panalo:
yung laging dapat MAS
- mayaman ang tita nya sa tita mo
- maganda ang anak nya sa anak mo
- matalino ang apo nya sa apo mo
- matalino sya kesa sa yo
atbp
Nakakapagod at nakasasawang kasama yung laging may
- pintas
- better idea
- last say.
Stay away from complainers and fault finders: papangit lang ang paningin mo sa mundo.
Never travel with a complainer or a fault finder.
Mabubwisit lang ang trip mo.
Q - Tito what is the best way to enjoy free time/ a whole day?
A -
Go where you want to go -
Do what you want to do - ALONE!
Mahirap mag-enjoy nang may kasamang
- only half interested.
- kailangang i-entertain o pakiramdaman.
- nagmamadali o nabo-bore.
Kung may isasama, tiyaking vibes talaga kayo ---
yung makaka-enhance sya sa experience,
hindi pabigat.
ONE of the most
- effective
- time-saving
- economical
- enjoyable
- touching
singular activities that could
- inform
- educate
- instruct
- broaden one's mind
- inspire:
WATCHING A REALLY GOOD FILM
Ed Lapiz - The Christian and His Finances (Pera o Puri)
"bakit born-again na ako eh poor pa rin ako?"
"masama bang magpayaman ang Christian?"
"may teachings ba ang bible tungkol sa utang?"
how does one live spirituality in this materil world? what is the interplay between the spirit and the body? between kabanalan and kaperahan?"
Ed Lapiz - The Christian and His Finances (Pera o Puri)
"masama bang magpayaman ang Christian?"
"may teachings ba ang bible tungkol sa utang?"
how does one live spirituality in this materil world? what is the interplay between the spirit and the body? between kabanalan and kaperahan?"
Ed Lapiz - The Christian and His Finances (Pera o Puri)
Ed Lapiz - Five thing to remember about money (Pera o Puri)
"bakit born-again na ako eh poor pa rin ako?"
"masama bang magpayaman ang Christian?"
"may teachings ba ang bible tungkol sa utang?"
how does one live spirituality in this materil world? what is the interplay between the spirit and the body? between kabanalan and kaperahan?"
Ed Lapiz - Five thing to remember about money (Pera o Puri)
"masama bang magpayaman ang Christian?"
"may teachings ba ang bible tungkol sa utang?"
how does one live spirituality in this materil world? what is the interplay between the spirit and the body? between kabanalan and kaperahan?"
Ed Lapiz - Five thing to remember about money (Pera o Puri)
Wednesday, 10 August 2016
Pastor Ed Lapiz Timeline Question and Answer
A pamangkin's message to HSBC CREDIT CARD:
"STOP calling our residence about collection even before payment date!
If you would not stop this intrusive and annoying practice,
WE WILL CLOSE OUR ACCOUNTS WITH YOUR BANK!"
If you would not stop this intrusive and annoying practice,
WE WILL CLOSE OUR ACCOUNTS WITH YOUR BANK!"
During worship singing,
it would be nice if,
instead of the song leader praying aloud between songs
and thus controlling even the prayer of the worshipers,
there would be just plain instrumental portion
so the people could pray personally
then join again in congregational singing.
Public prayer could so easily degenerate into public performance.
I love private, personal, quiet, even non-verbal prayer.
Q - Nakaka disrespect po ba Kung I-aadd mo Sa friendlist mo Sa Facebook ang ex-wife ng yung kapatid? Pano Kung naging Ninang Sa binyag ng anak mo yung ex-wife ng kapatid mo at May bago Na po pamilya kapatid mo at legally separated Naman po sila.
A -
medyo complicated. Kung mature / professional ang mga sangkot and they can handle it well, puede. Pero kung may mga baggages pa sila, better meet/ celabrate with them SEPARATELY. Awkward pagsama-samahin sila sa iisang lugar/event
Q - Hi Pastor, do you have special Mother's Day and Father's Day celebration in your church? Sometimes I feel that the church is being a little insensitive to those childless married couples for having a full-blown Mothers/Father's Day celebration. Maybe just incorporating the event in the message and praying for them is enough.
A -
wala. we do not fully subscribe to hallmark greeting cards-invented holidays to improve sales of cards :-)
Tapos sumali ang department stores and restaurants sa circus / bonanza ng invented holidays na ganyan hahaha
Everyday should be Mother's/Father's day; no need for artificial and melodramatic "celebrations" hahahah.
Q - Given that God is infallible and omniscient, He knows what will happen.
In that case, do we still have free will? Kasi po whatever we decide, future is already known to Him.
A -
Known. Foreknown, but not imposed.
Q - Sir ed prang bihira n po kau mag post ng status po sa fb ? Miss ko n po mga post mo po.
A
may ginawang book :-)
.
Q - panu pa po ba maibabalik ang samahan ng mag asawa na sinira ng isang pagkakamali?
A -
Time. Make up. Manuyo. Magpasuyo. Bigyan ng panahong maghilom ang sugat. Time heals all wounds, they say.
Q - Hi Tito what to do if depressed and insomniac
A -
Pag grave depression, advisable to get professional, clinical treatment / therapy.
See a psychiatrist or clinical counselor.
Q - Ano po ba ang matatawag na kulto at sino ang matatawag na bulaang mangangaral? Sino po ang may karapatang magbigay ng ganung label sa mga religious teachers at workers?
A - "'Bulaan' according to whom?" ang dapat itanong.
Everyone, especially religious critics, has beliefs, standards and opinions.
So sino ang may karapatang tumawag ng "bulaan" kanino man? WALA.
Kasi, faith is that: Faith!
People tend to call faiths outside of their own as FAKE of FALSE.
Pero sila rin, tinatawag na fake or false by others.
Some would claim to base their judgment on some "authoritative" document or verses, but even those who "believe" in the same source never agree with one another on how to interpret and apply those same verses. They also call each other fake or false.
Sino sila para malaman ang true from false faith, eh faith nga yun?
Matters of faith cannot be verified nor proven by objective, empirical or intellectual standards. Otherwise that would be "knowledge", not faith.
So sino ang may karapatang tumawag sa iba ng kulto o fake o false: Only GOD and God alone
Q - Pag po may tampuhan kami ng BF ko, ang hirap-hirap sa dibdib.
Feel ko naman po sya rin nahihirapan. Hindi naman po maiwasan ang tampuhan tapos walang usapan, walng text, walang calls. But I think both of us suffer in an extended way. What to do pls???
A -
Imbes
- magpatagalan sa pag communicate, mag-unahan!
- magpataasan ng pride, magpababaan!
- maghintay na mauna yung other person na bumati, uanhan na sya.
Wakasan ang suffering.
Huwag magtikisan kundi magmahalan!
Magbabati rin lang naman talaga kayo if you really love each other,
bilisan na.
Be happy na ulit.
Mag-text na.
Now na!
Q - Bakit po kaya pag may love/partner ako, lagi na lang ako ang parang naghahabol, naghahanap, demanding at kandarapa?
A-
Siguro
1. sobra kang serious?
2. wala kang ng masyadong ibang ginagawa o pinagtutuunan ng pansin?
3. talaga lang mas interesado ka sa kanya/kanila kesa sila sa yo?
Relax.
Wag masyadong maghabol o magpahalata.
Q - Pano po kaya mararamdaman ng todo-todo ang buhay?
A -
Fall in love.
Mararamdaman mo ang lahat ng uri, lawak, lalim at babaw ng emosyon!
In love, walang bata at walang matanda: lahat isip-bata!
Q - Bakit po kaya ang ilap-ilap ng kapalaran sa akin. Nawala po halos ng magagandang projects na hanap-buhay ko. Dahil po kaya matagal na kong tumigil mag-church kasi naman ay wala akong matagpuang church na hiyang sa aking panlasa. ( Aaminin ko po na ma-pride ako at maselan pero hindi po ako lumayo sa Diyos, naging private na lang nga po ang prayer and Bible study ko.)
Bakit po hirap na hirap ako ngayon sa buhay samantalang dati ay masagana ako at maraming projects?
A -
Kung kahit na lang saang larangan ay parang mailap ang kasiyahan at kasaganaan, be it material, emotional or spiritual, malamang na ang bara ay wala sa labas kundi nasa loob.
Take an inward journey. Siyasatin mo ang kalooban mo at hanapin ang bara sa pagdaloy ng buhay at pagpapala.
Everything is spiritual and our battles are fought in spiritual realms.
To be more specific --- battles are in the mind. In thought .
Suriin mo ang paraaan at takbo ng iyong pag-iisip at malamang ay naroon ang bara.
Puedeng negative ka mag-isip madalas: puedeng tulad ng sabi mo, ma-pride, o kaya magagalitin.
Puede ring may paraan ka na mapanakit o nakasasakit sa kapwa. Bawat sakit ng loob ng kapwa na tayo ang may gawa ay bumabalik sa atin bilang sakit din. What we give is what we get.
Siyasatin mo what you give to the world because it is what the world will give back to you. So what you are getting now could be what you have been giving to the world.
In life, we keep what we give away and lose what we selfishly try to keep.
We are not victims of life: we make life. So give what you like to receive.
Bless instead of curse. What comes out of our mouths flies into the sky and boomerangs back to us.
Change your life by changing the way you think, talk and live.
Romans 12.2 Be changed by the renewing of your mind.
Our mind is a factory. Thoughts produce the things that surround us.
So make your thoughts/mind produce what you like to harvest in life.
Ang kailangan para baguhin ang kapalaran ay PAGBABAGONG-LOOB / Paghuhunus-dili ---na magaganap matapos ang pagninilay-nilay at pagbubulay-bulay.
AT HINDI laging KAILANGAN ANG CHURCH para maganap ang pagliliwanag ng isip. May pagkakataong yung church pa nga at ang mga elemento doon ang nagiging hadlang para magkaron ng tunay na panunuri ng espiritu.
Kaya huwag mong isiping lumalayo ang Diyos sa yo dahil lang malayo ka sa church. Hindi lang sa church nakakaniig ang Maylikha. Pero kung may tama, tugma at hiyang na church, makatutulong ito ng malaki.
Dalangin ko na maiba ang ihip ng hangin sa paligid mo.
Pero mangyayari yun kung maiba muna ang ihip ng hangin sa kaibuturan ng puso mo. Ang pagbabago sa labas at tugon lang sa pagbabago sa loob.
Bunutin, alisin, puksain ang anumang hinananakit, sama ng loob, galit, poot at pagkasuklam na nananahan sa puso. Ang mga ito ay mga batubalaning umaakit ng hinagpis.
Q - LUGI po ako twing di kami nagkikita ng BF ko. Sad ako, miss na miss sya at nagwo-worry na baka he is seeing someone.
Tapos sya naman po napaka-relaxed.
Nagagalit pa pag tinatanong ko.
Sa tingin ko po lugi ako at neglected.
Ano po ang gagawin ko, sobra at ang tagal ko syang missed.
A -
Lugi ka pala eh di isara mo ang tindahan!
Kung missed mo sya first day, second day, third day at neglected ka pa rin,
dapat sa 4th day, adjusted at sanay ka na.
Manhid na. Wala nang drama.
Learn from every lonely day, pamangkin.
Wag kang mag-martir.
Q - Ano po ang magandang isagot sa mga relihiyoso na may ibang interpretation at paniniwala tapos ipinipilit nila sa yo ang beliefs nila?
A -
Sagutin ng:
'THAT'S YOUR OPINION AND BELIEF; KEEP IT TO YOURSELF.
I HAVE MINE.
Church could so sweetly
- accept
- affirm
- support
- celebrate
"NORMAL" and ideal individuals and families
but could
- be gravely insensitive
- rejecting
- hurting
- demonizing
to
- "ABNORMAL" /Different
- broken
- less-than-ideal inividuals, households and families.
The
- "different"
- unwed mother / single parent
- person born out of wedlock
- separated / divorced / abandoned
- repartnered / re-seeker of the significant other
and all others
could so easily
- be driven to hide in the shadows.
- fall in the cracks.
Church could so easily become another oppressor of minorities.
Ang masaya lang sa church ay yung "normal" and ideal ang sitwasyon.
All others are forced to hide and/or be hypocritical.
Q - Tito ano po ang "heresy"?
A -
Yan pamangkin ang tawag ng self-righteous Religion/Religious Group/Person #! sa beliefs and teachings ni Religio/nReligious Group/Person #2 na iba sa teachings ni #1 at ayaw na ayaw ni #1 big time!
Yan ang ginagamit na word ni #1 to demonize #2.
Mas malaki at powerful si #1, mas nagmumukha syang tama sa tingin ng mga hindi marunong manuri.
Also consult the dictionary for formal meaning
Q - Tito bakit po may mga husbands na willing to pay prostitutes for sex while they do not give anything to their wives for the same act?
A -
Prostitutes are paid not only for the sex service; they are also paid to leave / go away pronto! after the act.
Labels are oversimplifications.
When people are labeled, called pro- or anti- anything or anyone,
they get reduced to simplistic classifications or brands.
People are complex and not one could be perfectly
- republican or liberal,
- conservative or progressive
- sinner or saint
etc.
Do not oversimplify people.
Do not call them red just because they have some streaks of red.
Even aspects of people's thoughts, beliefs and philosophies could be ambivalent.
Do not freeze people in one fleeting, ephemeral frame or snapshot of their multifaceted lives.
atthew 7:1-2 (NRSV)
7 “Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. 2 For with the judgment you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get.
DID YOU JUDGE SOMEONE YESTERDAY?
WILL YOU JUDGE SOMEONE TODAY?
Did you call anyone names?
Did you carelessly label a person and even influence others to do the same?
Go ahead and condemn people, especially unfairly and unjustly.
Spread bad words about someone, especially without careful study and verification.
GO AHEAD ANG DESTROY YOURSELF WITH JUDGMENTALISM
Be careful with gossip; it is delicious but poisonous.
Proverbs 26:22 (CEV)
22 There is nothing so delicious
as the taste of gossip!
It melts in your mouth
Signs my daughter is a lesbian:
Q - Tito please help how will I talk to my daughter..I have confirmed that she is in a romantic relationship with another girl...Help me I'm afraid na malaman ko yung totoo na may meron nga siyang identity crisis...And if there's a biblical verse na pwede ko iexplain s kanya na nagsasabi ng hind tama yung ganun?
A -
Maraming parents ang dumaan at dumadaan sa ganyang crisis. (Actually mukhang mas may crisis yung parents tulad mo na hindi matanggap ang reality ng anak nila .) Puede mong tambakan ng verses (usually misunderstood, misinterpreted and misused verses) ang ganyang mga anak, ipa-exorcise, pagalitan, ipa-psychiatric treatment, bugbugin, itakwil, etc pero ang general ending according to experience is the same: they remain as they are. Ang well-meaning parents pa ang nagdadagdag sa crisis nila. At madalas, nahihiwalay at nalalayo lang sila sa family that rejects them.
Yes you may try many approaches. And as a loving, concerned parent, you should. Do what you could; perhaps she's just confused or "mildly" oriented and could be "re-oriented". But most cases like that seems to be in-born. (Many people in that situation will strongly tell you that it is not choice: that they were born that way. That they have sensed, known then confirmed it themselves. That they did not want and still do not really want to be like that because of the attendant rejection and judgment. That they did everything they could to "change" but utterly failed. Afterall, "can a leopard change its spots or an Ethipian his skin?" -Jeremiah 13.23)
If that happens, shift your focus and be more concerned about the hardship she could experience because of her reality, not about your family image or your dreams for her that might have to be rewritten. Be concerned that many people won't be abe to accept her reality and that she would suffer much because of it. And realize that your family would be her first and last resort for comfort, protection and love. If you won't accept and love your own child, who else would? Afterall, her genes and even personality traits came from her mother and father. Sa inyo rin naman nanggaling ang kanyang dugo at laman.
At the end of the day, whether you are able or not to change her, just be a parent: loving, understanding, accepting. Especially in her case, most of the world is still hostile to such gravely misuderstood and demonized "abnormality". She will need all the love you can give. Just be a mother, not a therapist, not a moralist, not a judge. Afterall, there is not one law against, not even a mention of, lesbianism in the Old Testament, the Law that Jesus superceded/voided by his teaching and new command: LOVE people unconditionally.
Be strong and caring; this daugher needs your parental love more than your other "normal" children.
Q - Bakit po hindi matapus-tapos ang bangayan ng theologians at mga secta?
A - Theologians and religious sects quarrel because they tread on holy ground where no mortal should walk. They try to understand and explain God!
God cannot be fully understood, much less fully explained!
God is better perceived and not known to the letter. Knowing God, if that was possible at all, only takes away the mystery and hence, the power of faith.
The problem with theology is that it is just a form of philosophy. Philosophy is rooted in logic. Logic is rooted in thinking, in reason ---in the brain. The Divine cannot be known through thought. Human thought cannot contain the Divine. Thought could only grasp snapshots of the Divine. BUt to KNOW God? That is over ambitious, if not outright presumptuous. To understand is to be above the object. To understand God is to be above God. That, exactly, was the thrust of Lucifer: to set his throne above God.
It cannot be done; it should not be done. Scrutinising God could only utterly fail --- and backfire.
As such, all rational approaches to God would fail. God is beyond thought. Theologies only make God in man's image because mortal thought cannot understand, much less create, what is immortal. Thus, theology only minimises, trivialises, even vulgarises the Divine to the limits of human understanding. Theology drags the Divine from Olympus down to the agora only to be abused by mortals who think they know better.
That is why theologians only quarrel and theologies raise questions without answers.
Q - Bakit ang mga born-again ang daming versions ng Bible? Ang gulo. Buti pa ang Catholics, isa lang ang Bible.
A - Isa lang ang Bible, whether "Catholic" or "Protestant".
"Version" does not mean magkakaiba ang content; it only means magkakaiba any style ng pay-translate from Hebrew and Greek.
Basing it on sources, all versions are generally the same Bible. Iba-iba lang ng time of translation from the Greek and Hebrew base materials kaya may old fashioned language at may contemporary.
The so-called Catholic Bible is also a version. Kaya lang, Catholics are taught to read only one version.
May "protestants" din na one version lang ang gusto, like the King James Version.
Catholics may read any version, and also non-Catholics. Essentially, pareho lang ang laman.
The more versions one reads, the more he expands his scholarship/knowledge.
Pag matagal mong hindi nakita ang isang tao tapos nagkita kayo, think:
1. Hindi mo alam ang mga pinagdaanan nyang hirap at pagsubok.
2. Wala kang ideya kung ano ang dinaramdam o ipinag-aalala nya ngayon.
3. Maaaring kalingang-kailngan nya ng pansin, appreication, encouragement o tulong.
Try not to
1. Focus on yourself but on her/him.
2. Parade your latest victories or acquisitions.
3. Belittle her/him.
Be sensitive.
Be kind.
Q - Christian po kmi pero ang kapatid q may dinaramdam sa kayawan nya, ngpray na, nagpa pray, nag pa doctor na, uminom n ng mga halamang gamot pero hindi parin naging ok. Nagaun po pumunta sa isang mangagamot ang sabi ang kaluluwa daw po ng mama nmin humihingi ng isang mesa sa simbahan at ang lolo nmin n pumanaw n rin gusto daw sindi ng kandila sa cmenteryo. Pagkatapos non naging ok pakiramdam ng ate ko. Anu po ibig sabihin non?
A -
Palagay ko nagkataon lang yung timing. Parang walang logic o koneksyon yung panaginip at yung paggaling. Baka oras nang tumalab yung mga gamot?
Wealth and prosperity is not all about how much one HAS but also how much one ENJOYS and SHARES what one has. We are made rich not only by what we get or have but also by what we give away.
Organized religion could misrepresent God.
Before religion, there had always been God.
Q - Sa dami po ng interpretations at teachings from/on/about the Bible and many doctrines, nakakalito na po kung ano ang UUNAHIN at bibigyan ng PRIORITY.
Pls advice?
A - Unahin mo ang
1. teachings ni Jesus, especially his teachings on eternal/spiritual life and the reign of God in people's hearts; how to make God rule in your heart;
2. teachings that make you a good, caring and loving person;
3. teachings that give you practical guidance in godly, fruitful and peaceful living.
Hwag kang pagulo at sumali sa mga labanan ng teachings na malayo sa bituka, malayo sa pang-araw-araw na kagandahang loob at pakikipagmabutihan sa kapwa,
lalu na yung mga controversial topics na noon, ngayon at bukas na pumuti man ang uwak ay di na malulutas.
Iwasan ang mga topics na divisive, nakakagalit at nakapagpapa-away sa mga believers.
May mga pagkakamali na kahit pagsisihan at kapulutan ng aral ay meron at meron pa ring mapait at masaklap na bungang hindi maiiwasan.
Makabubuti talagang mag-isip nang mainam bago sumuong sa pagkakamali.
- Ano po ang bagay gawin sa isang taong huling-huli at cornered na cornered, caught in the act sa paggawa ng kasalanan?
Q -
Kung private, personal kasalanan at hindi naman directly damaged or affected ang buhay ng iba, at kung hindi naman violent or threatening or arrogant yung tao, tingnan ang ginawa ni Jesus sa woman caught committing adultery: he did not judge nor condemn her.
Because of Jesus' treatment of her, no one stoned her.
Q - Mahal na mahal daw po ako ng BF ko pero laging halos mamalimos ako ng time, attention and actual presence nya samantalang may time and capacity naman sya to be with me kung talagang gugustuhin nya?
A -
Kung talagang mahal, di ka nya gagawing pulubi, namamalimos ng attention?!
1. Baka hindi ka talaga mahal?
2. Baka mahal ka nga pero merong ibang mahal / mas mahal?
Action speaks louder than words, pamangkin.
Q - Tito, hanggang saan po ang responsiblity ang ninong at ninang sa kasal? Ok lang ba na makialam kahit hindi hinihingi?
A -
Okay lang sa simula. Baka naman kasi nalilimutan lang na sumangguni sa kanila.
Pero matapos na makilahok at maramdamang unwelcome ang kanilang panghihimasok, dapat back off sila ninong at ninang.
Pray na lang muna on their own.
MInsan sa kaayawan sa nagpapayo o sa style ng pagpapayo ay inaayawan na rin tuloy yung payo mismo.
Q - Tito yun pong friend ko sobrang laki ng boobs, halos masubsob na po pag naglalakad?
A -
Eh bakit mo pinoproblema?
Kung talagang concerned ka, payuhan mo na lang ma medyo tumingala o lumiyad pag naglalakad para may balance?
Q - Ano po ang dapat gawin sa preachers na panay ang parinig na imbitahan silang mag-speak sa church namin? Bakit po ba may mga preachers na ipinag-aalukan ang sarili nila na mag-speak kung saan-saang churches?
A -
Invite them kung makabubuti, makatutulong at makae-edify sa inyo.
Kung hindi naman kayo nabe-blessed o kung di nyo talaga gusto eh di wag nyo invite?
Q - Pano po makarecover ang isang namatayan ng mahal sa buhay
A -
God. Seek God's comfort.Pray.
Time. Panahon ang nagbibigay ng recovery.
Makatutulong na maging busy, find another focus, other objects of love. Maglibang. Strive to be happy.
Q - Tito paano po malalaman na talagang mahal ako ng BF ko.? Sobra pong malambing sa texts at panay ang " I love you". Kakilig po talaga.
Sobra pong nahuhulog ang loob ko ...at parang malapit na rin pong mahulog ang panty ko!
A -
Watch his body language.
Madaling magsinungaling sa salita;
mas matapat ang kilos at gawa.
Let time pass.
Mahirap magsinungaling consistently sa mahabang panahon.
Lalabas at lalabas din ang tunay na ugali at niloloob.
Yung kilos at gawa ang bantayan mo.
Dun ka mas maniwala.
At yang panty mo, huwag mong ilaglag.
Talian mo.
Iperdible.
Higpitan.
Do not join the swelling ranks of girls na nabola sa dami ng sweetipiepie texts at inilaglag na lang basta-basta ang lahat-lahat.
Q - Bakit po kaya ayaw nang pumatol at makilahok ng isa kong kilalang pastor-theologian sa maraming mga usapan or debates on the faith? Sayang kasi very educated, well read and intelligent sya, not to mention very very spiritually anointed. Madalas din po kasi na di sya maintindihan ng marami at inaakusahan sya ng heresy?
A -
Baka very highly debeloped at nasa iba nang dimension ang consciousness nya: malayu na, evolved na ang korte ng isip at pag-iisip nya?
Baka sobra na syang nabababawan sa mga ganyang usapin?
O naiisip nyang useless (for now) to keep discoursing with people whose minds and thoughts are still so "primitive" and "underdeveloped" and whose spiritual vocabulary is still so very limited as to be able to engage in an enlightened discourse?
Ganyang-ganyan ang case ni Jesus: di sya maintindihan kaya inaakusahan syang prince of demons, etc.
Alam ni Jesus ang ganyang sitwasyon kaya sabi nya:
Matthew 7:6 (CEV)
Don’t give to dogs what belongs to God. They will only turn and attack you. Don’t throw pearls down in front of pigs. They will trample all over them.
In other words: Hwag makipag-usap sa mga ganyan.
Hwag / Useless makipag-usap / makipagtalo sa walang muang.
Q - Lagi po akong lugi sa love.
I always end up giving so much and getting so little.
Sobra-sobra po ang naibibigay ko compared sa natatanggap?
How can I avoid being lagi at sobrang lugi?
A -
Make your love a prize at the finish line of the race,
not a give-away incentive at the starting point;
Make your love a fruit at the end of people's labor,
not some fertilizer in the beginning?
Let people earn your love.
Huwag mong ipamigay agad-agad at bigla-bigla.
Q - gusto ko ng mag-exit sa group chat ng spiritual community namin kasi madalas akong ma-hurt sa mga topics ng group. Very judgmental of others.
A -
The Arabs have a saying: "Close the door that brings in the draft."
1. Pastor hanggang kelan po ba dapat magpatawad? Pag niloko ka po ba ng boyfriend dapat po ba magbigay ng chance? May nangyari po sa kanila nung isang girl habang kami po. Dapat pa po bang magbigay pa ng chance?
2. Pastor pag po ba alam mo at ramdam mo na ayaw sayo nung parents ng bf mo at may iba silang gusto para sa kanya dapat po bang mag giveway na?
A -
1. Mas malaki ang loss pag hindi nagpatawad.
2. NO. Hindi naman yung parents nya ang pakakasalan mo.
Q - Bakit po kaya ang bilis maging galit ang romantic love?
A -
There is a very thin line between love and hatred
that it could be easy to hate the one you used to love.
We usually put down all defenses against a loved one,
so it becomes so easy to be hurt.
Mabuting labanan ang ganitong tendency
and try hard remember an ex for all the good things?
Q - What is the quickest way to forget a lost love?
A -
A new /Another love?
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