PRACTICAL ADVICE

 Q - Parang may mga payo po kayong hindi "usual" ?

A -

Pamangkin, I seldom give "usual" payo kasi yung usual ay mostly malayo sa bituka; walang immediate use.

At yung "usual payo" ay bagay lang sa mga normAL ang sitwasyon.

Maraming ang kalagayan ay hindi normal, not necessarily meaning "wrong" but just ABnormal, meaning not like the majority.

I USUALLY GIVE PRACTICAL ADVICE na doable at madaling tumalab ---and friendly sa pinapayuhan. For sure hindi ko ipapa-api ang pinapayuhan ko ---which is the usual payo: "Magtiis ka...magpasensya ka na...ipag-pray mo na lang...etc."

Many people are unable to live ideal, "normal" lives; they fall in the cracks, needing to just survive a moment, a day, or even a lifetime of pain, sorrow or grave need.

I could give the standard, ideal, safe answers but that would only keep me safe from criticisms of retro Pharisees, but would prove unhelpful to those who are bleeding to death.

I am here not to seek popular votes but to help the wounded, especially those who are misunderstood, judged, shunned, marginalized and minimized by the "ideal and normal" gangs who live in denial of people's real pains and even add oppression to those people's already hard lives.

Those who live ideal lives have no need to read my wall; they could just sit back and relax in their couches and watch reruns of "The Stepford Wives".