People are who they are because the combination of
1. CHOICE. They choose to be that way.
This can be changed if the person decides to change.
2. Nurture. They were conditioned by outside influences to be that way.
This could be altered if enough and effective counter-nurture is given, and the person cooperates.
3. NATURE. They were born that way.
It's genetic, in-born, designed and therefore willed by the Creator-Designer.
It's not the person's choice. Neither is it a product of nurture. Therefore it can not be changed by the person or by outside infuences / forces.
Psalm 139: 15-16 Contemporary English Version (CEV)
15 Nothing about me
is hidden from you!
I was secretly woven together
deep in the earth below,
16 but with your own eyes
you saw
my body being formed.
Even before I was born,
you had written in your book
everything I would do.
A person's major trait is pre-ordained by God.
- - - - -
Jesus says in
Matthew 19:12 New International Version (NIV)
12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others-and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it. "
SOME TRAITS OF A PERSON COME FROM CHOICE,
SOME FROM nurture,
MOST FROM NATURE.
Choice and nurture could be changed; nature could only be accepted.
Isaiah 45: 9-19 Contemporary English Version (CEV)
The Lord said:
9 ... you have no right
to argue with your Creator.
You are merely a clay pot
shaped by a potter.
The clay does not ask,
"Why did you make me this way?
Where are the handles? "
10 Child ren do not have the right
to demand of their parents,
" What have you done
to make us what we are? "
Q - Tito sa dami na po ng nakita nyong views sa mundo, alin po ang most beautiful?
A -
Two people who are discreetly expressive of love for each other.
Those who insist on staying as they are/were without changing or accommodating the other is very probably NOT really in love.
Some people are lights in and by themselves; they have light radiating from within them.
Other people whose inner lights are not developed become reflectors; they catch and reflect other people's radiance.
Every nag or tampo is a cry for help.
Q - Ano po ang ibig sabihin pag natitiis ka nyang hindi
- itext ?
- tawagan ?
- batiin ?
- suyuin ?
A -
HINDI KA MAHAL
- enough?
- higit sa sarili nyang pride?
- period!
Never have an affair with someone who has nothing to lose.
If you think na winner ka kasi laging ikaw ang take nang take,
you are wrong.
In the end, you will be the loser because
NO ONE STAYS IN LOVE ON A ONE-WAY STREET.
Pag laging ikaw ang "winner", pagsasawaan at itatapon ka.
Unless you are ready to pay for the consequence,
never say bad things about people who have power over you.
They will know about it and use their power to punish you.
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Ecclesiastes 10:20 (CEV)
Don’t even think
about cursing the king;
don’t curse the rich,
not even in secret.
A little bird might hear
and tell everything.
Never say bad things about anyone ---unless it's alright to you for him/her to hear / know about what you say.
Kasi sigurado namang malalaman din nya, sooner or later.
Q - Tito, what singular act have you done gave a really significant contribution to your personal development?
A -
Marami naman.
Iba-iba.
Pero hindi naman automatically "gave" contributions to development.
Puedeng sabihing "opened the way" for possibilities of development
:-)
Marami.
But one that quickly comes to mind is my enrolment
at the UP Rural High School in Los Baños.
Looking back, schooling at the UPRHS really contributed so much to my early development.
Not to mention that somehow that led to my subsequent enrolment
also at the UP for my undergrad, grad and post grad studies.
ANOTHER factor is a student's attitude: I almost always position
myself as a student of Life: asking, listening and experimenting!
Q - Tito ano po ang pinakamabilis na paraan para dumami ang alam?
A -
1. Read a good book.
2. Watch a good film.
2. Talk with a learned, wise person.
Dahil ang tao, habang nabubuhay, ay kakain, iinom --- gagasta,
dapat ay kumita
- sa pinakamaagang edad
- lagi
- hanggang kaya ng katawan.
Sa abot ng makakaya,
- kumita
- magimpok
- maghanda.
Huwag umasa sa magulang, sa anak, sa iba o sa charity.
Pag wala kang paghahanda para sa iyong posibleng pagkakasakit ay
balak mong
- wag na lang magpagamot at magtiis hanggang madedo
o
- magpagamot and make others pay for the expenses.
PEOPLE SHOULD EARN THE MAXIMUM POSSIBLE INCOME AT THE EARLIEST AND FOR THE LONGEST POSSIBLE TIME
BECAUSE NEEDS WILL SURELY COME.
Proverbs 6:6-11 (CEV)
6 You lazy people can learn
by watching an anthill.
7 Ants don’t have leaders,
8 but they store up food
during harvest season.
9 How long will you lie there
doing nothing at all?
When are you going to get up
and stop sleeping?
10 Sleep a little. Doze a little.
Fold your hands
and twiddle your thumbs.
11 Suddenly, everything is gone,
as though it had been taken
by an armed robber.
Ang tao, pag di agad nadedo, ay tatanda.
Pagtanda, ang tao ay magkakaron ng sari-saring sakit.
(Minsan nga bata pa lang ay may mga sakit na.)
Pag nagkasakit, mangangailangan ng pera.
Pag nadedo, kailangan din ng pera.
MORAL LESSON:
Maghanap-buhay habang bata at hanggat kaya.
Kung puede, wag magretire agad.
Patuloy na kumita sa ibat-ibang paraan.
Magimpok / Maglaan.
Magkaron ng assets, especially cash or reliable insurances.
Paghandaan ang pagtanda at/o pagkakasakit.
KASI KUNG WALA KANG HANDA,
aasa ka sa iba, mang-aabala ka ng iba,
sasandal at pabubuhat ka sa iba
o
magdurusa / magtitiis magkasakit ka nang walang
- gamutan
- alaga
- ginhawa.
PEOPLE SHOULD EARN THE MAXIMUM POSSIBLE INCOME AT THE EARLIEST AND FOR THE LONGEST POSSIBLE TIME
because needs will surely come.
Proverbs 6:6-11 (CEV)
6 You lazy people can learn
by watching an anthill.
7 Ants don’t have leaders,
8 but they store up food
during harvest season.
9 How long will you lie there
doing nothing at all?
When are you going to get up
and stop sleeping?
10 Sleep a little. Doze a little.
Fold your hands
and twiddle your thumbs.
11 Suddenly, everything is gone,
as though it had been taken
by an armed robber.
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Q - What is the best way to behave with my creditor na hindi ko pa mabayad-bayaran?
A -
1. Periodically / Regularly acknowledge your utang.
Emphasize that you remember and that you purpose to pay.
2.
Pay even in small increments / installments?
3. Do him even just small favors / kindnesses whenever possible.
Q - What can protect me from emotional pain caused by people?
A -
1. DETACHMENT.
Distance.
Friction is caused by strong touch / contact.
Be near enough to connect but far enough so as to minimize friction.
2.ACCEPTANCE of pain.
ATTACHMENT but with enlightened acceptance, even anticipation, of pain.
3. UNDERSTANDING and ACCEPTANCE of people --- that they would / could hurt you (and you them), intentionally or un, when you got too close to them.
Q - Tito, who can hep me out of my devastating sadness and depression because my BF dumped me?
A -
1. Another someone who'd bring another devastation? :-)
(At least malilibang ka muna sa simula.)
2. Yourself and yourself?
Do good to yourself. Only you would know how?
3. Other people who would / could give you good counsel, comfort,
company, nursing till you recover?
4. God and your faith.
5. TIME.
"Time heals all wounds."
Maraming pag-ibig ay parang daluyong ---
parang storm surge / tsunami:
Biglang dating, biglang alis din.
Tapos ang laki ng damage!
Hija, guwapo lang sya habang bulag ka pa at baliw sa kanya.
Hinatayin mong matauhan ka at baka mandiri ka pa sa kanya --- at sa sarili mo for going crazy over him.
Darating ka rin sa ganyang Kaliwanagan.
Most girls do!
Pag nagagagahan ka na sa sarili for falling for him,
it means you are no longer
- in love
- blinded by love
and you are now free!
Pag di ka na nasasaktan --- pag wala ka nang pagdaramdam---
ibig sabihi'y hindi mo na sya mahal.
Malaya ka na!
SALA*wikain:
"Di bale nang tamad,
Hindi naman pagod."
---
*"Sala" means
- mali
- mintis
- hindi tama.
Rootword of
- kaSALAnan
- maySALA
Ecclesiastes 7:18b (NIV)
Whoever fears God will avoid all extremes.
*
Even ---especially ---religious extremism.
Q - Bakit po parang hindi ninyo laging pinapagalitan ang mga sinners na nagtatanong?
A -
Gusto mo ba?
Halika!
Simulan natin sa yo, hija.
Q - Dahil po kaya gay ako kaya ako madalas iwanan ng mga lalaki?
A -
Pamangkin, kahit mga babae, at kahit wife pa nga, ay naiiwan din ng ibang lalake.
Pag laging "Opo" lang ang ituturo sa bata na sagot sa matatanda,
sasanayin / huhubugin mo syang maging
- door mat
- patsy
- sunud-sunuran kahit kanino na lang.
Turuan din ang bata ng "Hindi Po / Ayoko po" basta tama ang katwiran.
Q - Tama ung mga posts ninyo regarding sa pagpapaalipin. Ganun po ako sa office namin. Naaabuso hindi lang ng boss, pati ng mga katrabaho. Paano ko mai-aaply ang mga payo mo sa trabaho ko? Uneven ang distribution ng work loads, sakin tinatambak mga trabaho. Alam naman un ng boss namin pero bakit hindi siya nakakaramdam? Salamat! ??
A - Say no? Refuse overload? Express yourself. Q -Okay lang po ba un? Hindi ba negative pag sinabi ko sa boss ko?
Baka sabihin ay nagrereklamo ako?
A - No. sanay sila sa ganun. pag di ka nagrereklamo, iisipin nila happy ka or okay lang sa yo. TINGNAN MO YUNG IBANG LAHI, MAREKLAMO. Hindi tuloy abused.
Kung ayaw mong
- maging api-apihan
- makawawa
- ma-exploit ang anak mo,
turuan mo agad na matututong mag-NO
--- kahit sa yo --- for the right reasons.
Ang marunong mag-"No" ay mahirap
- apihin
- abusuhin
- kawawain.
Three letters that could enslave you:
"Yes"
Sa pinipili mong kainin,
ginagamot o nilalason mo ang iyong katawan!
Sa piling ng mga iresponsable,
TALO / KAWAWA
ang responsable.
Iba ang drama at takbo ng isip pag hatinggabi at madaling-araw.
Sentimental.
Sensitive.
Idealistic.
Ethereal.
Try to not
- make important decisions or commitments
- send that mail or text
- make that call
at this time.
Kung ayaw mong MAPASUBO sa lahat ng
- pananagutan
- gastos
- trabaho
- sakripisyo,
huwag masyadong maging
- helpful
- reliable
- martir
sa simula pa lang.
Pag nakita kang
- helpful
- reliable
- martir,
AASAHAN
AABUSUHIN
UUBUSIN
ka nila!
Pinakamadaling Mabulag /Bulagin:
1. Political Ideologue
2. Religious Fanatic
3. Romantic Lover
Kahit gaano ka
- kaganda /kaguapo
- ka-educated
- kayaman
- ka-powerful
- kabait
- kamartir
- ka-accomplished
etc etc etc
KUNG HINDI KA NYA MAHAL, HINDI KA NYA MAHAL.
Fundamentalism, whether political or religious,
leads to extremism characterized by anger, cruelty and violence against the other.
Avoid / Minimize giving unsolicited advice.
Keeping your unsolicited wisdom to yourself
would spare you from a lot of sorrow.
Q - Pag ang high school classmate ko po more than 40 years ago
ay mukhang batang-bata pa rin at present, ano po kaya ang dahilan?
Bakit ako super tanda ng looks?
A -
1. Genetics? Lahi nila hindi tandain?
2. Spiritual/ Emotional peace and happiness?
3. Maalaga?
4. "Salamat po, Doctor!" ?
Proverbs 27:10
...A friend nearby is better
than relatives far away. (CEV)
*
... better a neighbor nearby than a relative far away. (NIV
If the shoe does not fit
and only hurts your foot,
stop wearing it.
Wear what fits.
Is an action good or bad?
Some actions are simple that they could be easily discerned as good or bad.
But some actions are complex and not so easy to read and interpret.
One has to wait for the fruit and test / taste it.
*
Do not judge a complex action
- prematurely
- before you see and taste its fruit.
Q - Are you in favor of conservative religious groups having significant influence on secular political elections?
A -
NO!
Conservative religious groups, when politically empowered, would only impose their conservative doctrines on everyone else and so oppress all other citizens, especially those who do not share their beliefs.
Religious groups that like to wield political power should be willing to have / let other religious groups have THAT same power too.
If they do not want that power to be in the hands of other religions,
neither should they aspire to have it for themselves.
Q - Pag may dalawa pong estudyante ngayon,
ang isa nag-aaral ng business at yung isa arts,
ano po kaya ang pagkakaiba ng buhay nila 10-20 years from now?
A -
Unless nagawang applied arts yung pinag-aralan,
yung nag-arts laging hihingi ng support / sponsorship sa nag-business?
Q - Tito, tungkol po ba sa Undas ang topic ninyo sa October 31?
A -
PARANG KASAWA NA HAHAHAHA
PURO GANUN EVERY YEAR?
And besides, kanino bang calendar ang nagsasabi nun?
A - ano po ang stand nyo sa christian songs at worldy song..?
A -
LYRICS LANG ANG NAGBIBIGAY NG VALUE.
HINDI AKO INTO CLASSIFYING MUSIC INTO SACRED AND SECULAR.
YUNG LYRICS AND MESSAGE ANG MAHALAGA.
Q - I send texts and PMs na "Hi!" lang naman po ang laman pero hindi man lang nya sinasagot?
A -
Baka
1. Hindi nababasa
2. Concerned na pag sumagot ay di mo na tigilan ang communication hanggang mag-feeling close ka na, mag intrude ka na sa privacy at magtanung ng kung anu-ano,
magdala ka na ng mga sumbong at chismis, o mangutang ka na?
:-)3. Ayaw lang makipag personal communication?
4. Wala lang sa mood.
Whatever, kung ayaw nyang sumagot, right nya yun!
Q - May sakit po ang mother ko. Yung isa nyang kapatid, puro pera lang po ang ipinapadala at hindi personal na dumadalaw?
A -
Aba!
Pasalamat kayo at nagpapadala!
Kesa naman di na dumadalaw ay wala pang ipinapadala.
Minsan, may mga taong malulungkutin deep inside at ayaw ng mga eksena ng sakit, hingalo, kamatayan, lamay o libing.
Minsan naman, baka natatakot na pag dumalaw ay sobrang ma-involved at masangkot.
Minsan pa rin, hindi nila gusto yung mga taong nakapaligid sa pasyente kaya hindi na lang dumadalaw.
At madalas, busy lang talaga o tinatamad.
Count your blessings!
Count the padala!
And thank the nagpadala.
Q - May tao po akong tinetext at pinadadalhan ng PMs pero hindi sumasagot?! Minsan naman po kinukumusta ko lang ang health nya.
A -
Hindi naman nya duty na sagutin ang bawat text o pm na hindi naman nya sino-solicit o ini-imbita.
Huwag mo syang padalhan ng message that asks for / requires an answer!
Halimabawa yang pangungumusta,
Imbes na tanungin mo ng "How are you?" which requires an answer
(that makes it an imposition),
simpy say something like "I wish you well." or "I'm praying for your good health." or "I hope this finds you well." Naiparating mo ang goodwill without requiring an answer --- without imposing!
A question, kahit "How are you?", is an imposition.
Q - anu pong gagawin ko sa mga friends na may pakiramdam ako na hindi naman talaga totoo saken, though wala naman ginawa na masama but still I feel that there’s something fishy sa friendship na ino offer nila, I dont feel the sincerity and in fact parang may halo pangang pagkainggit..... is it bad to just ignore them? How will I stay away without feeling guilty. Or should I try and try to build a relationship baka naman mali ang gut feel ko?
A -
Just be cool. Make friends pero yung mild lang, not too close at walang masyadong emotional capital.
At least until your gut feel is proven --- or disproven.
Q - Ano po mas ok mag fulltime alaga para sa aming baby or kumuha ng yaya
A -
If one of you could earn enough for the whole family,
then the other could give full time alaga sa baby.
At least until old enough na sya para ipa-yaya dub!
Q - Ito pong maliit na Jesus-believing and Jesus-centered congregation namin ay nilalait ng isang grupo: kulto raw po kami at illegitimate dahil hindi nila kami kasapi at hindi kami nagmula sa grupo nila? Hindi raw po kami tunay na church? Sila lang daw po ang tunay na church at mapapatunayan daw yun sa history?
A -
Kung nananalig kayo kay Jesus at sumasamba sa Amang Dios,
Christian / totoo / legitimate kayo! Di nyo kailangan ang pagsapi sa kung anu mang grupo.
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Matthew 18:20 (CEV)
Whenever two or three of you come together in my name, I am there with you.
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Pag may Jesus at may mananampalataya, may Church!
Wag nyong pansinin ang mga umaangkin sa Dios, sa Langit at sa kabanalan para lang sa kanilang sarili.
Yang "historical" claim nila ay guni-guni at hindi mapatutunayan sa masusi, mabusisi, maalam, marunong, informed, enlightened, educated and scientific historical study.
Ituloy nyo lang ang pagtitipon, pagsamba at pamumuhay ayon sa katuruan ni Jesus.
God really bless you!
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Let the children be childlike;
let the youth be youthful.
Do not fast forward pre-mature maturity;
there is so much time to be old and act old.
Ecclesiastes 3.1 (CEV)
Everything on earth
has its own time
and its own season.
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