Ed Lapiz - Why do good things happen to bad people

Why do good things happen to bad people

Ed Lapiz - You shall not commit adultery

Ed Lapiz - You shall not commit adultery

Ed Lapiz - JESUS FILTER (Febuary 26, 2017)

Ed Lapiz - JESUS FILTER (Febuary 26, 2017)

Ed Lapiz - Isang Tanong Isang Sagot

Ed Lapiz

Q - May umutang po sa aming mag-asawa ng 70K. May PDC pa pong pambayad dated last year pa. Kaso, nung oras na to encash teh check, tumalbog po. Nagbayad lang po ng pakonti-konti, pero malaki pa ang kulang. Lately, sa patuloy naming paniningil dahil kailangang-kailangan na namin yung bayad, nagalit po. Halos i-curse kami at makakarma daw kami dahil wala kaming puso sa paniningil sa kanya?
Bad po ba kami sa paniningil?
Saan po kami nagkamali?
A -
Not bad, kasi utang naman yung sinisingil nyo.
Kaya lang, kung naghulog naman ay hindi lang mabuo ang bayad dahil walang pera, ano ang magagawa nyo?
Siguro aburido na kaya sya pa ang nagagalit?
Baka gipit na gipit?
Saan ka mo kayo nagkamali?
Sa pagpapautang ng perang kailangang-kailangan nyo rin pala agad.
Siempre, ang pagpapautang ay may risk.
At ang nangungutang ay obviously walang pera, gipit, ubos na ang personal resources kaya umabot na sa pag-utang.
So be ready for the possibility na talagang di sila makabayad on time.




Q - May maliit po kaming restaurant. Pag po medyo hapon o gabi na, ang tatamad na ng mga tauhan. Para pong hindi na welcome sa kanila ang mga customer. Poor service na po.
Ano po ang magandang gawin para sumipag sila? 
A -
Pagod na kasi pag hapon o gabi na kaya tamad na.
At sa kanilang limited point of view, kahit naman kasi dumami ang customer ay walang direct benefit to them.
Incentivize!
Magbigay ka ng premyo sa kanila pag dumarami o sa bawat nadadagdag na customers after a certain cut-off time.
Halimabawa, after 5pm, sa bawat additional 50 customers ay may
P500 silang paghahati-hatian bilang bonus!
Next 50 additional customers, another P500 for them.
Ganun.
Bahala ka na sa actual amount.
Ang mahalaga, makita nilang sila ay nakikinabang sa bawat dagdag na customer. Hindi lang additional pagod ang napapala nila.
Sisipag ang mga yan, makita mo.
Baka nga manghila pa ng mga dumadaang tao para mapakain ang mga ito sa resto nyo!



TRUGGLE WITH ONE'S PERSONALITY
Q - Matagal na po akong Christian pero kahit gaanong pagsisikap ko ay may hindi mabago at maiba sa aking pagkatao na itinuturo ng church namin ay masama at dapat baguhin. Talaga pong todo ang pagsisikap kong baguhin ang bahaging iyon ng personality ko pero ang ending lang po ay frustration, guilt, shame, fear, self-rejection and hypocrisy kasi ay itinatago ko na lang tuloy ang totoo kong pagkatao na ayon sa teachings ay not the standard. Sa simula pa lang ay alam kong ganito na ako at ginawa ko na lahat-lahat para mabago dahil nga sa demonization, rejection, ridicule, and all other negative things attendant to my personality. Worse, ako pa ang nasisisi sa ganitong sitwasyon na di ko naman nilikha o pinili. Sino ba naman ang kusang pipili na maging "less than standard" para lang maging talung-talo sa treatment ng marami?

I'm tired of trying to be sobody or something else other that who and what I really am. I'm tired of hiding, na lumala lang ng naging chuch member ako kasi at hindi ako tinatangap ng sarili kong church.

Bakit po kahit anong dasal at pagsisikap magbago ay hindi pa rin ako maging ideal/standard samatalang yung marami ay napaka effortless nila at natural na natural na ideal/standard na agad sila without even trying? How can I be like everyone else? Or what should I do to suffer less?

Q - Ang character na tao ay bunga ng dalawang major factors: 1.NATURE and 2. NURTURE.
Kung ang personality ay galing sa 2. NURTURE (meaning training, education, bringing up, environtment, etc.) ay puede itong maiba with retraining, reeducation, reconditioning and change of environment, etc. Pero siempre, mahirap at matagal na process ito at puedeng hindi maging 100% ang reshaping kasi may mga habits ng nabuo na overtime.
 Kung ang personality naman ay galing sa NATURE (meaning genetic, in-born, likas) ay hindi yun mababago ng kahit anumang pagpipilit kasi nga ay likas.
Jeremiah 13:23 (CEV)
23 Can you ever change...?
Can people change the color
of their skin,
or can a leopard
remove its spots?

What is natural/genetic/inborn cannot be changed. It is only to be accepted. At best, it could only be modifed slightly.
Ang pagpipilit baguhin ito ay magbubunga lang ng sobrang inner struggle and conflict, frustration, feeling of failure, anguish, pain and suffering. Dapat lang itong tanggapin.

Kung ang personality naman ay in-born/natural na nga tapos ay sobra pang nadevelop by nurture, kung babaguhin ang nurture ay puedeng may maiba ng konti sa outward behavior, actions and habits of the person (kaya akala ng outsider-obeservers ay nagbago na nga yung tao, pero yung inner, genetic nature nya ay di pa rin mababago.)
Ang mahalaga ay self-aceptance ng may katawan at acceptance sa iba kung sila ay ganyan.

On the issue of personality, Jesus was once asked why some men do not/cannot have sexual relations with women. (So the question was about sexual personality/identity) He answered:
Matthew 19:11-12 (NIV)
11 Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others —and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”
In others words, Jesus says:
11 ... “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.
= UNDERSTANDING THIS REALITY REQUIRES SPIRITUAL/SUPERNATUAL REVELATION AND ENLIGHTENMENT. Not everyone will see it this way.

"For there are eunuchs who were born that way"
= NATURE, GENES, IN-BORN FACTORS not chosen by the individual and cannot be changed. Why blame people if they were "born that way"?

"and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others" = NURTURE / CONDITIONING/ASSIGNEMNT BY THE ENVIRONMENT. This may ba changed, up to a point.

" —and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven."
= PERSONAL CHOICE, MAY be changed by the changing of one's mind.

"The one who can accept this should accept it.”
= This reality/truth will be accepted by those who have the spiritual gift/enlightenment to understand it. (Those who are not gifted can't/won't accept it.)

Change for the better what can be changed. Work hard at it.
Meanwhile, do not kill yourself or others tryng to change what is genetic and in-born. God created all people, and every in-born trait could only by caused and given the Creator.

Psalm 139:13-16 (NIV)
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.

Thank God for creating you that way. God could not be wrong! Celebrate life; it is a gift to be enjoyed, not a problem to be solved nor a mistake to correct and change.

Be kind to yourself. Be kind to people who are "less-than-standard"; as it is, they suffer too much already.

As long and as far as Man's correspondence with God is 
- systematized
- mediated
- administered
- franchised
- monopolized
by "priests",
such "priests" can / will control
- Man's thoughts and actions.
- society.
And once "priests" taste and enjoy such privilege and power,
they will never want to give it up.
"Priests" stand in the way
- of direct, personal relationship between God and Man.
- between God and Man


Q - Bakit po kapag namatayan sya pa yung madalas naaabala pa, nagpupuyat pa, napapagod pa, gumagagatos at nag aaliw pa sa mga bumibisita?? 
Hindi kaya sya na sumunod na paglalamayan nyan?
Hindi ba dapat na yung bumibisita ang magdala, mkapagbigay ng pahinga sa namatayan?
A -
May point ka pamangkin.
Kaya naman naka develop ang mga matatanda ng mga "pamahiin" na sa totoo lang ay practical kindness and consideration ang bunga.
Halimabawa:
1. "Bawal maligo pag may patay."
Noong araw ay mahirap maligo; nasa labas ng kwarto o ng bahay ang paliguan.
So mahirap para sa namatayan ang laging maligo, lalu na kung puyat at walang water heater.
So, may excuse na ang namatayan na huwag laging maligo (na sobrang expectation ng mga Pilipino).
2. "Bawal ihatid sa pinto ang mga paalis na nakiramay."
This gives the namatayan an excuse para hindi sobrang mapagod ng katatayo at kahahatid sa nga dumating / dumalaw.
3. "Bawal matuluan ng luha ang kabaong."
This gives the namatayan
- a reason not be too stressed crying.
- an excuse not to have to cry all the time (which is somehow expected by the audience).
4. "Bawal maglinis ng bahay / magwalis pag may burol."
Pagod at puyat ang namatayan,
This excuses them from working too hard to keep the house clean while multitudes come and go, messing the place up.
MARAMI PANG IBANG MAGAGANDANG KAUGALIAN na minamasama at ninilbak ng mg hindi nakauunawa, lalu na ng mga clueless at culture-insensitive born again Christians :-)



Q - Ako po ayaw ko ng cremation kasi wala sa Bible.
A - 
Oooops! Saul and Jonathan were cremated.
At pag ganyan ang katwiran, hindi rin dapat
- magpa-root canal ng ngipin
- mag-contact lenses
- mag-eroplano
- magpa-X ray
- etc etc etc
kasi wala rin lahat yan sa Bible.
The Bible tells us what we should not do.
But it does not limit us to do only what is exemplified in the Scriptures.
Pampaunlad, hindi pampa-atras ng buhay ang Bible!
Pero kung ayaw mo talaga ng cremation dahil lang ayaw mo, eh di wag!


If the Kingdom of God is reached through personal faith,
then why not keep faith PERSONAL?
Why insist on a corporate, standard, uniform 
interpretation and application of matters of faith?
Why condemn others who ---
because of their personal faith ---
do not exactly share yours?


Mga pa-“spiritual” language na madalas ay gasgas at twisted ang usage o iba na ang talagang ibig sabihin or
What pa-spiritual people say and what they really mean: :-)

“God’s will” = Ang nangyari ay hindi yung original na gusto.
“God will provide” = Walang clear and solid plan for provision.
“I will pray about it” = “Wala talaga akong gagawin.”
“Fellowship” = Controlled program (Walang totoong fellowship na magaganap)
“Calling” = Assigned Task or Personal Desire
“In his time” = “Anytime; walang clear plan.”
“God’s Leading” = Personal desire
“Retreat” = Regulated/ controlled activity-filled event. Hindi talaga "retreat"

“Worship” = Regulated formal program


Q - Maloloka po ako. Ang husband ko pong pastor, nagkaron ng affair ---at sa worship leader pa! Kakanta-kanta sa church ang hitad, tumitihaya pala sa pastor kong asawa!

A - Hindi malayong magkaganyan ang madalas magkasama ---kahit pa sa ministry.
May mga ibong kakanta-kanata sa sanga ng punung mangga...pero dumadapo pala kung kani-kaninong may asawa.
Kaya dapat, bantay-Marino!
Huwag magtiwala ng basta-basta dahil lang may "ministry" ang mga tao, o dahil lang kakanta-kanta sya.

Q - Tito ang GF ko po ang dalas-dalas nananaginip na ikinakasal daw kami. At dahil "spiritual" po sya, may strong revelation, leading and command daw sa kanya ang Diyos na pakasal na kami within three months or else may masamang mangyayari sa Nanay ko?! Nalilito po ako kasi hindi pa ako handa at di ko pa tagala gustong mag-asawa agad-agad kahit pa nga talagang love na love ko si GF. 
A -
Kung talagang God's will and calling na pakasalan mo sya at a certain schedule, DAPAT SA YO NAGPARAMDAM ANG DIYOS. DAPAT IKAW ANG NAKA-RECEIVE NG CALLING O REVELATION kasi ikaw ang magpapakasal.
 Baka deep wish yan ng GF mo kaya lumalabas sa kanyang mga panaginip? DO NOT PLAY INTO HER WISHFUL IMAGININGS UNTIL YOU YOURSELF RECEIVE THE LEADING FROM GOD AND YOU HAVE CONVICTION, INNER PEACE AND DESIRE TO DO IT.
It takes two to make a marriage; kung talagang magpaparamdam ang Diyos na gusto na Nya kayong pakasal ni GF, dapat pareho kayong bigyan ng conviction and leading!
AT BAKIT naman pati ang walang-malay mong nanay ay mapapahamak kung di ka pakasal agad? Bakit naman may banta pa ang "revelation" na yan? Hmmmmm.....



Q - Nabasa ko lang po post nyo about credit card, ang laki po kasi ng problem ko sa metro bank, last year nagkaron ako ng member sa insurance, elit card at kung ano ano na hindi ko naman personally minemberan, ang tanda ko may tumawag lang sakin dati asking kung ako si norberto eto ba eka adress mo at accont name, nag yes lang ako then nagulat nlng ako may bill na dumating sa akin, last june pnacancel ko na membership ko pero patloy pa din ang tawag at dating ng bill umabot na sa 20k at ngayon may nagtxt, attorney daw at idedemanda daw ako kc inignore ko daw bayaran, kaya ko lang naman po hindi mabayaran kasi ang laki po para isakripisyo ko yung maliit na sweldo ko sa bayaring dko naman pinakinabangan tsaka last june ko papo pnacancel pero late na daw nila nabasa, kasalanan ko po ba na late nila nabasa pero updated sila buwan buwan computin penalty at addtional charges sa akin? Hindi po tuloy ako mapakali. 😥😥😥
A -
Consult a lawyer pamangkin or a credit specialist para magawa mo ang effective steps to get out of that mess.



Q - Ano po ang gagawin ko sa mga oras na hindi ako makatulog kahit ano ang pilit kong gawin?
A -
Eh di wag kang matulog pamangkin?!
Aantukin ka rin soon.
Dun ka matulog


Q - Hi Tito, may advice/tips po ba kayo kung paano effective na (tapusin) basahin ang Bible? Matagal ko na po kasi gusto magbasa pero di ko magawa na everyday at madalas e hindi po ako sinisipag magbasa. Thank you po.
A -
Unahin mo at paulit-uliting ang Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, Romans at Galatians. Idagdag ang Ecclesiastes.


Q - Nadiagnose oo ako na may gallstone, advice po ng doctor need na po opera, pero may nakapagsabi po sakin na meron naman daw pong natural way, nagsearch po ako mukangeffective natural way pero meron din naman nagsabi na babalik din at iba nastuck, ano maipapayo nyo tito
A - 
I believe in the natural way. Hindi laging kailangan ang invasive surgical procedure. Pag bumalik ang stones eh di palabasin ulit.
May kilala akong doctor na nagpapalabas ng gallstones using natural therapies.



Sa pag-present ng "two sides" sa news, dapat proportionate.
Halimbawa, kung ipe-present ang statements ng magkaibang opinyon like "Gusto o ayaw mo ba si Person X?"
Hindi sapat na may tig-isa o tig-dalawang statements for each choice para matawag na "balance."
Kung out of 10 interviewees ay higit na marami ang "Ayaw",
dapat ipakita sa reporting ang proportion na yun.
Mas marami dapat ipakitang statements ng mga "Ayaw".
Pag magkapareho ng dami ng statements ang magkabilang panig,
magmumukhang hati 50-50 ang mga tao.



Q- Paano po malalaman kung ang preacher ay naggo grow in wisdom and understanding?
A -
Isang panukat:
Nag-iiba, lumalalim, lumalawak ang pag-unawa, pag-interpret at pag-apply nya sa biblical verses/ teachings. Yung ang pangangaral nya on the same verse/s ay naiiba sa pagdaan ng panahon; hindi the same lang at exact repetition lang. Very importantly, sya at ang kanyang katuruan ay mas bumabait, umaamo at nagiging maibigin sa pagdaan ng panahon. Ang bunga naman talagang dapat ay patuloy na pagbait at pagbuti ng ugali at asal.



Q - Tito how can I forgive people who have wronged me when they do not even say sorry?

A - Do not make your forgiving depend on the offenders' behavior; that would only empower them to affect you further. Do it as a personal, unilateral, SELFISH act. Why "selfish"? You will benefit when you forgive them; you continue to lose when you don't.

Q -ano pong masasabi nyo sa tradition na pag-celebrate ng Christmas ? Is it really UNBIBLICAL TO CELEBRATE CHRISTMAS knowing the fact that hindi rin naman talaga daw Dec 25 pinanganak si Jesus?

A - Hindi naman yung exact date ang isyu kundi yung lang celebration of the fact that Jesus was born.
Hindi naman talaga historically dated yung birth kasi hindi naman uso noon ang pagre-record ng exact dates of birthdays, especially of poor people. Pero hindi rin naman malinaw na sinabi ng Bible na HINDI DEC 25 ipinanganak si Lord. :-)

Although some claim that the Dec 25 celebration originated from a pagan festival from the distant past, and as a trained historian I am aware of that claim, sino ba naman sa nagse-celebrate ngayon ng pasko ang talagang sumusunod sa spirit nung pagan origins na yon? Ni hindi nga alam ng marami ang tungkol doon. Sa puso at isip nila, sine-celebrate nila ang birth of Jesus.
Yuna ng intention nila. And God judges people by what is in their hearts.

Kung ang object ng mga nagdiriwang ng pasko ay talagang isang pagan god, kung ginagawa nila consciously ang celebration in honor of a pagan god, eh di hindi nga bagay sa Christians na gawin. Pero tanungin mo ang bawat nagse-celebrate kung ginagawa nila yun para sa isang pagan God. I doubt na may makikita kang ganung tao. Umiimbento ng multo ang mga nanggigiyera sa Pasko.
At ano naman ang panganib? Mapo-possess ka kaya ng evil spirit dahil sa celebration? Mabubulid ka sa impiyerno? Magkakasakit? Mapapahamak?

KELAN naman kasi ise-celebrate ang birth ni Lord para lang umiwas sa Dec 25? Sa Feb 1? March 17? October 11? Kelan? Eh wala naman ngang specific date?
At sino ang makakasabay mong magdiwang? Kelan itataon ang holidays?
So WHY NOT Dec 25? May tradisyon na. Sabay-sabay at masaya.
At sa temperate countries na may winter, ang lamig, ang lungkot, a celebration on Dec 25 is very therapeutic. It breaks the sadness, aloneness, isolation and dreariness of winter. It saves many people from depression. Sayang naman kung summer pa gagawin eh marami nang kasiyahan pag tag-araw.
All things, all places, all times, dates and days belong to God who created everything. So, any day is as good as anyother for celebration.

Psalm 24:1 (CEV)
The earth and everything on it
belong to the Lord.
The world and its people
belong to him.
Hindi naman malinaw na sinabi ng Bible ni HINDI Dec 25 yun o HUWAG mag-celebrate sa Dec 25. Hindi rin naman biblical yung idea na HUWAG mag-celebrate sa Dec 25; opinion din lang yun. Wala ring specific biblical base.
The Christian is free to do anything that the Bible does not specifically, expressly and clearly prohibits.
Ang dami-daming namang puedeng pag-initan at dapat pigilang gawain ng mga tao, bakit yun pang Christmas Celebration? Naubus na ba ang mga demonyong mas dapat unahing gyerahin?
O ginagawan ng isyu ang Pasko para lang maging controversial, maging kakaiba at mapansin?
Yung ayaw mag-Pasko eh di huwag. Walang namimilit.
Pero huwag pigilan o pagmukhaing masama yung may gusto.
Keep and practice your excessive fears to the confines of your own minds.

Pag may nabasang utos o katuruan sa Bible, itanong muna sa sarili bago ka magpakasakit o manakit ng iba sa pagsunod:
1. IKAW BA ang kausap ng
- verse?
- teacher / prophet?
- Diyos
o ibang tao sa ibang panahon, lugar at sitwasyon at ngayon ay nakikibasa ka lang?

2. UNIVERSAL BA talaga ---pang lahat ng tao [kasama ka na] sa lahat ng panahon sa lahat ng lugar sa lahat ng sitwasyon --- YUNG VERSE at pati ikaw na hindi original recipient / kausap / kasali AY OBLIGADONG SUMANGKOT AT SUMUNOD?

3. Diyos ba talaga ang may sabi / utos nyan o mga tao lamang na nagtatago sa likod ng Diyos para magkaron ng "authority" ang sinasabi nila? CONSISTENT / TUGMA ba sa character ng Diyos
(maibigin, mabait, mapagmahal, atbp.) ang utos / katuruan, o salungat? Pag salungat, suriin kung talagang Diyos ba ang may sabi noon? Talaga bang sasabihin/ iuutos / ituturo ng Diyos ang ganun?

4. Kaninong interest ang makikinabang sa pagpapairal ng "utos" / "katuruan"? Baka naman may vested interest ang nagsabi, at pinalalabas lamang na ang Diyos ang may sabi noon?

Manuri. Mag-aral na mabuti. Magdahan-dahan sa bulag na pagsunod at pagpapasunod sa mga utos at katuruang taliwas sa kabutihan at kabaitan ng Diyos na lalu pang nilinaw, isinabuhay at ipinakita ni Jesus.

Ed Lapiz - You are not You are (Part 1)

Ed Lapiz - DIVERSIFY (Febuary 19 2017)

Isang Tanong Isang Sagot by Pastor Ed Lapiz

People are who they are because the combination of

1. CHOICE. They choose to be that way.
This can be changed if the person decides to change.

2. Nurture. They were conditioned by outside influences to be that way.
This could be altered if enough and effective counter-nurture is given, and the person cooperates.

3. NATURE. They were born that way.
It's genetic, in-born, designed and therefore willed by the Creator-Designer.
It's not the person's choice. Neither is it a product of nurture. Therefore it can not be changed by the person or by outside infuences / forces.

Psalm 139: 15-16 Contemporary English Version (CEV)
15 Nothing about me
is hidden from you!
I was secretly woven together
deep in the earth below,
16 but with your own eyes
you saw
my body being formed.
Even before I was born,
you had written in your book
everything I would do.

A person's major trait is pre-ordained by God.

- - - - -
Jesus says in
Matthew 19:12 New International Version (NIV)
12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others-and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it. "

SOME TRAITS OF A PERSON COME FROM CHOICE,
SOME FROM nurture,
MOST FROM NATURE.

Choice and nurture could be changed; nature could only be accepted.

Isaiah 45: 9-19 Contemporary English Version (CEV)
The Lord said:

9 ... you have no right
to argue with your Creator.
You are merely a clay pot
shaped by a potter.
The clay does not ask,
"Why did you make me this way?
Where are the handles? "
10 Child ren do not have the right
to demand of their parents,
" What have you done
to make us what we are? "







Q - Tito sa dami na po ng nakita nyong views sa mundo, alin po ang most beautiful?
A -
Two people who are discreetly expressive of love for each other.



Those who insist on staying as they are/were without changing or accommodating the other is very probably NOT really in love.




Some people are lights in and by themselves; they have light radiating from within them.
Other people whose inner lights are not developed become reflectors; they catch and reflect other people's radiance.



Every nag or tampo is a cry for help.



Q - Ano po ang ibig sabihin pag natitiis ka nyang hindi
- itext ?
- tawagan ?
- batiin ?
- suyuin ?
A -
HINDI KA MAHAL
- enough?
- higit sa sarili nyang pride?
- period!


Never have an affair with someone who has nothing to lose.




If you think na winner ka kasi laging ikaw ang take nang take,
you are wrong.
In the end, you will be the loser because
NO ONE STAYS IN LOVE ON A ONE-WAY STREET.
Pag laging ikaw ang "winner", pagsasawaan at itatapon ka.




Unless you are ready to pay for the consequence,
never say bad things about people who have power over you.
They will know about it and use their power to punish you.
*
Ecclesiastes 10:20 (CEV)
Don’t even think
about cursing the king;
don’t curse the rich,
not even in secret.
A little bird might hear
and tell everything.



Never say bad things about anyone ---unless it's alright to you for him/her to hear / know about what you say.
Kasi sigurado namang malalaman din nya, sooner or later.



Q - Tito, what singular act have you done gave a really significant contribution to your personal development?
A -
Marami naman.
Iba-iba.
Pero hindi naman automatically "gave" contributions to development.
Puedeng sabihing "opened the way" for possibilities of development
:-)
Marami.
But one that quickly comes to mind is my enrolment
at the UP Rural High School in Los Baños.
Looking back, schooling at the UPRHS really contributed so much to my early development.
Not to mention that somehow that led to my subsequent enrolment
also at the UP for my undergrad, grad and post grad studies.
ANOTHER factor is a student's attitude: I almost always position
myself as a student of Life: asking, listening and experimenting!




Q - Tito ano po ang pinakamabilis na paraan para dumami ang alam?
A -
1. Read a good book.
2. Watch a good film.
2. Talk with a learned, wise person.




Dahil ang tao, habang nabubuhay, ay kakain, iinom --- gagasta,
dapat ay kumita
- sa pinakamaagang edad
- lagi
- hanggang kaya ng katawan.
Sa abot ng makakaya,
- kumita
- magimpok
- maghanda.
Huwag umasa sa magulang, sa anak, sa iba o sa charity.




Pag wala kang paghahanda para sa iyong posibleng pagkakasakit ay
balak mong
- wag na lang magpagamot at magtiis hanggang madedo
o
- magpagamot and make others pay for the expenses.




PEOPLE SHOULD EARN THE MAXIMUM POSSIBLE INCOME AT THE EARLIEST AND FOR THE LONGEST POSSIBLE TIME
BECAUSE NEEDS WILL SURELY COME.
Proverbs 6:6-11 (CEV)
6 You lazy people can learn
by watching an anthill.
7 Ants don’t have leaders,
8 but they store up food
during harvest season.
9 How long will you lie there
doing nothing at all?
When are you going to get up
and stop sleeping?
10 Sleep a little. Doze a little.
Fold your hands
and twiddle your thumbs.
11 Suddenly, everything is gone,
as though it had been taken
by an armed robber.




Ang tao, pag di agad nadedo, ay tatanda.
Pagtanda, ang tao ay magkakaron ng sari-saring sakit.
(Minsan nga bata pa lang ay may mga sakit na.)
Pag nagkasakit, mangangailangan ng pera.
Pag nadedo, kailangan din ng pera.
MORAL LESSON:
Maghanap-buhay habang bata at hanggat kaya.
Kung puede, wag magretire agad.
Patuloy na kumita sa ibat-ibang paraan.
Magimpok / Maglaan.
Magkaron ng assets, especially cash or reliable insurances.
Paghandaan ang pagtanda at/o pagkakasakit.
KASI KUNG WALA KANG HANDA,
aasa ka sa iba, mang-aabala ka ng iba,
sasandal at pabubuhat ka sa iba
o
magdurusa / magtitiis magkasakit ka nang walang
- gamutan
- alaga
- ginhawa.
PEOPLE SHOULD EARN THE MAXIMUM POSSIBLE INCOME AT THE EARLIEST AND FOR THE LONGEST POSSIBLE TIME
because needs will surely come.
Proverbs 6:6-11 (CEV)
6 You lazy people can learn
by watching an anthill.
7 Ants don’t have leaders,
8 but they store up food
during harvest season.
9 How long will you lie there
doing nothing at all?
When are you going to get up
and stop sleeping?
10 Sleep a little. Doze a little.
Fold your hands
and twiddle your thumbs.
11 Suddenly, everything is gone,
as though it had been taken
by an armed robber.

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Q - What is the best way to behave with my creditor na hindi ko pa mabayad-bayaran?
A -
1. Periodically / Regularly acknowledge your utang.
Emphasize that you remember and that you purpose to pay.
2.
Pay even in small increments / installments?
3. Do him even just small favors / kindnesses whenever possible.



Q - What can protect me from emotional pain caused by people?
A -
1. DETACHMENT.
Distance.
Friction is caused by strong touch / contact.
Be near enough to connect but far enough so as to minimize friction.
2.ACCEPTANCE of pain.
ATTACHMENT but with enlightened acceptance, even anticipation, of pain.
3. UNDERSTANDING and ACCEPTANCE of people --- that they would / could hurt you (and you them), intentionally or un, when you got too close to them.



Q - Tito, who can hep me out of my devastating sadness and depression because my BF dumped me?
A -
1. Another someone who'd bring another devastation? :-)
(At least malilibang ka muna sa simula.)
2. Yourself and yourself?
Do good to yourself. Only you would know how?
3. Other people who would / could give you good counsel, comfort,
company, nursing till you recover?
4. God and your faith.
5. TIME.
"Time heals all wounds."



Maraming pag-ibig ay parang daluyong ---
parang storm surge / tsunami:
Biglang dating, biglang alis din.
Tapos ang laki ng damage!



Hija, guwapo lang sya habang bulag ka pa at baliw sa kanya.
Hinatayin mong matauhan ka at baka mandiri ka pa sa kanya --- at sa sarili mo for going crazy over him.
Darating ka rin sa ganyang Kaliwanagan.
Most girls do!



Pag nagagagahan ka na sa sarili for falling for him,
it means you are no longer
- in love
- blinded by love
and you are now free!



Pag di ka na nasasaktan --- pag wala ka nang pagdaramdam---
ibig sabihi'y hindi mo na sya mahal.
Malaya ka na!



SALA*wikain:
"Di bale nang tamad,
Hindi naman pagod."
---
*"Sala" means
- mali
- mintis
- hindi tama.
Rootword of
- kaSALAnan
- maySALA



Ecclesiastes 7:18b (NIV)
Whoever fears God will avoid all extremes.
*
Even ---especially ---religious extremism.




Q - Bakit po parang hindi ninyo laging pinapagalitan ang mga sinners na nagtatanong?
A -
Gusto mo ba?
Halika!
Simulan natin sa yo, hija.




Q - Dahil po kaya gay ako kaya ako madalas iwanan ng mga lalaki?
A -
Pamangkin, kahit mga babae, at kahit wife pa nga, ay naiiwan din ng ibang lalake.




Pag laging "Opo" lang ang ituturo sa bata na sagot sa matatanda,
sasanayin / huhubugin mo syang maging
- door mat
- patsy
- sunud-sunuran kahit kanino na lang.
Turuan din ang bata ng "Hindi Po / Ayoko po" basta tama ang katwiran.

Q - Tama ung mga posts ninyo regarding sa pagpapaalipin. Ganun po ako sa office namin. Naaabuso hindi lang ng boss, pati ng mga katrabaho. Paano ko mai-aaply ang mga payo mo sa trabaho ko? Uneven ang distribution ng work loads, sakin tinatambak mga trabaho. Alam naman un ng boss namin pero bakit hindi siya nakakaramdam? Salamat! ??
A - Say no? Refuse overload? Express yourself. Q -Okay lang po ba un? Hindi ba negative pag sinabi ko sa boss ko?
Baka sabihin ay nagrereklamo ako?
A - No. sanay sila sa ganun. pag di ka nagrereklamo, iisipin nila happy ka or okay lang sa yo. TINGNAN MO YUNG IBANG LAHI, MAREKLAMO. Hindi tuloy abused.




Kung ayaw mong
- maging api-apihan
- makawawa
- ma-exploit ang anak mo,
turuan mo agad na matututong mag-NO
--- kahit sa yo --- for the right reasons.





Ang marunong mag-"No" ay mahirap
- apihin
- abusuhin
- kawawain.



Three letters that could enslave you:
"Yes"



Sa pinipili mong kainin,
ginagamot o nilalason mo ang iyong katawan!



Sa piling ng mga iresponsable,
TALO / KAWAWA
ang responsable.




Iba ang drama at takbo ng isip pag hatinggabi at madaling-araw.
Sentimental.
Sensitive.
Idealistic.
Ethereal.
Try to not
- make important decisions or commitments
- send that mail or text
- make that call
at this time.




Kung ayaw mong MAPASUBO sa lahat ng
- pananagutan
- gastos
- trabaho
- sakripisyo,
huwag masyadong maging
- helpful
- reliable
- martir
sa simula pa lang.
Pag nakita kang
- helpful
- reliable
- martir,
AASAHAN
AABUSUHIN
UUBUSIN
ka nila!




Pinakamadaling Mabulag /Bulagin:
1. Political Ideologue
2. Religious Fanatic
3. Romantic Lover




Kahit gaano ka
- kaganda /kaguapo
- ka-educated
- kayaman
- ka-powerful
- kabait
- kamartir
- ka-accomplished
etc etc etc
KUNG HINDI KA NYA MAHAL, HINDI KA NYA MAHAL.




Fundamentalism, whether political or religious,
leads to extremism characterized by anger, cruelty and violence against the other.




Avoid / Minimize giving unsolicited advice.
Keeping your unsolicited wisdom to yourself
would spare you from a lot of sorrow.



Q - Pag ang high school classmate ko po more than 40 years ago
ay mukhang batang-bata pa rin at present, ano po kaya ang dahilan?
Bakit ako super tanda ng looks?
A -
1. Genetics? Lahi nila hindi tandain?
2. Spiritual/ Emotional peace and happiness?
3. Maalaga?
4. "Salamat po, Doctor!" ?



Proverbs 27:10
...A friend nearby is better
than relatives far away. (CEV)
*
... better a neighbor nearby than a relative far away. (NIV




If the shoe does not fit
and only hurts your foot,
stop wearing it.
Wear what fits.



Is an action good or bad?
Some actions are simple that they could be easily discerned as good or bad.
But some actions are complex and not so easy to read and interpret.
One has to wait for the fruit and test / taste it.
*
Do not judge a complex action
- prematurely
- before you see and taste its fruit.






Q - Are you in favor of conservative religious groups having significant influence on secular political elections?
A -
NO!
Conservative religious groups, when politically empowered, would only impose their conservative doctrines on everyone else and so oppress all other citizens, especially those who do not share their beliefs.
Religious groups that like to wield political power should be willing to have / let other religious groups have THAT same power too.
If they do not want that power to be in the hands of other religions,
neither should they aspire to have it for themselves.



Q - Pag may dalawa pong estudyante ngayon,
ang isa nag-aaral ng business at yung isa arts,
ano po kaya ang pagkakaiba ng buhay nila 10-20 years from now?
A -
Unless nagawang applied arts yung pinag-aralan,
yung nag-arts laging hihingi ng support / sponsorship sa nag-business?



Q - Tito, tungkol po ba sa Undas ang topic ninyo sa October 31?
A -
PARANG KASAWA NA HAHAHAHA
PURO GANUN EVERY YEAR?
And besides, kanino bang calendar ang nagsasabi nun?



A - ano po ang stand nyo sa christian songs at worldy song..?
A -
LYRICS LANG ANG NAGBIBIGAY NG VALUE.
HINDI AKO INTO CLASSIFYING MUSIC INTO SACRED AND SECULAR.
YUNG LYRICS AND MESSAGE ANG MAHALAGA.




Q - I send texts and PMs na "Hi!" lang naman po ang laman pero hindi man lang nya sinasagot?
A -
Baka
1. Hindi nababasa
2. Concerned na pag sumagot ay di mo na tigilan ang communication hanggang mag-feeling close ka na, mag intrude ka na sa privacy at magtanung ng kung anu-ano,
magdala ka na ng mga sumbong at chismis, o mangutang ka na?
:-)
3. Ayaw lang makipag personal communication?
4. Wala lang sa mood.
Whatever, kung ayaw nyang sumagot, right nya yun!




Q - May sakit po ang mother ko. Yung isa nyang kapatid, puro pera lang po ang ipinapadala at hindi personal na dumadalaw?
A -
Aba!
Pasalamat kayo at nagpapadala!
Kesa naman di na dumadalaw ay wala pang ipinapadala.
Minsan, may mga taong malulungkutin deep inside at ayaw ng mga eksena ng sakit, hingalo, kamatayan, lamay o libing.
Minsan naman, baka natatakot na pag dumalaw ay sobrang ma-involved at masangkot.
Minsan pa rin, hindi nila gusto yung mga taong nakapaligid sa pasyente kaya hindi na lang dumadalaw.
At madalas, busy lang talaga o tinatamad.
Count your blessings!
Count the padala!
And thank the nagpadala.




Q - May tao po akong tinetext at pinadadalhan ng PMs pero hindi sumasagot?! Minsan naman po kinukumusta ko lang ang health nya.
A -
Hindi naman nya duty na sagutin ang bawat text o pm na hindi naman nya sino-solicit o ini-imbita.
Huwag mo syang padalhan ng message that asks for / requires an answer!
Halimabawa yang pangungumusta,
Imbes na tanungin mo ng "How are you?" which requires an answer
(that makes it an imposition),
simpy say something like "I wish you well." or "I'm praying for your good health." or "I hope this finds you well." Naiparating mo ang goodwill without requiring an answer --- without imposing!

A question, kahit "How are you?", is an imposition.



Q - anu pong gagawin ko sa mga friends na may pakiramdam ako na hindi naman talaga totoo saken, though wala naman ginawa na masama but still I feel that there’s something fishy sa friendship na ino offer nila, I dont feel the sincerity and in fact parang may halo pangang pagkainggit..... is it bad to just ignore them? How will I stay away without feeling guilty. Or should I try and try to build a relationship baka naman mali ang gut feel ko?
A -
Just be cool. Make friends pero yung mild lang, not too close at walang masyadong emotional capital.
At least until your gut feel is proven --- or disproven.




Q - Ano po mas ok mag fulltime alaga para sa aming baby or kumuha ng yaya
A -
If one of you could earn enough for the whole family,
then the other could give full time alaga sa baby.
At least until old enough na sya para ipa-yaya dub!



Q - Ito pong maliit na Jesus-believing and Jesus-centered congregation namin ay nilalait ng isang grupo: kulto raw po kami at illegitimate dahil hindi nila kami kasapi at hindi kami nagmula sa grupo nila? Hindi raw po kami tunay na church? Sila lang daw po ang tunay na church at mapapatunayan daw yun sa history?
A -
Kung nananalig kayo kay Jesus at sumasamba sa Amang Dios,
Christian / totoo / legitimate kayo! Di nyo kailangan ang pagsapi sa kung anu mang grupo.
*
Matthew 18:20 (CEV)
Whenever two or three of you come together in my name, I am there with you.
*
Pag may Jesus at may mananampalataya, may Church!
Wag nyong pansinin ang mga umaangkin sa Dios, sa Langit at sa kabanalan para lang sa kanilang sarili.
Yang "historical" claim nila ay guni-guni at hindi mapatutunayan sa masusi, mabusisi, maalam, marunong, informed, enlightened, educated and scientific historical study.
Ituloy nyo lang ang pagtitipon, pagsamba at pamumuhay ayon sa katuruan ni Jesus.
God really bless you!









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Let the children be childlike;
let the youth be youthful.
Do not fast forward pre-mature maturity;
there is so much time to be old and act old.
Ecclesiastes 3.1 (CEV)
Everything on earth
has its own time
and its own season.

Matthew 7:6 (CEV)

Anumang bagay na mas malaki sa isang butas ay hindi maipapasok dito.
Ganun din ang idea.
Anumang idea na mas malaki kaysa sa utak/isip ay hindi maipapasok dito.
Huwag magsayang ng lakas na magpaliwanag sa makitid na isip.
Baka awayin ka lang nya.
Para may mangyari,
1. Paliitin ang idea para magkasya, o
2. Palakihin ang utak sa pamamagitan ng pagsasanay.
Jesus says:
Matthew 7:6 (CEV)
Don’t give to dogs what belongs to God. They will only turn and attack you. Don’t throw pearls down in front of pigs. They will trample all over them.

Bakit po kaya walang banana catsup dito sa ibang bansa?

Q - Bakit po kaya walang banana catsup dito sa ibang bansa?
A -
Nilikha ng Pilipino ang banana catsup noong World War II.
Ang catsup na dinala ng mga Americans sa Pilipinas ay gawa sa TOMATO.
Pero noong World War II, hinarangan ng mga Hapon ang mga karagatan sa paligid ng Pilipinas at walang makapasok na imported goods, kasama na ang Tomato Catsup.
SO, UMIMBENTO ANG PILIPINO NG IBANG CATSUP!
Eh ang dami kaya nating BANANAS!
MAgdalo V. FRANcisco created his banana catsup kaya ang brand name ay MAFRAN.
After the war, nakarating ulit sa Pilipinas ang tomato catsup ng Kano,
pero marami nang Pinoys ang nasanay at mas nasarapan sa Banana Catsup kaya tuluy-tuloy na nabuhay ang catsup na sariling atin.
In 1960, Francisco partnered with Tirso T. Reyes para palakihin ang compania.
Pero later nagkaron sila ng di pagkakasundo kaya humiwalay si Francisco at lumikha ng ibang brand, ang JUFRAN na ipinangalan nya sa anak nyang si JUn.
*
Meron naman nyan sa maraming Filipino / Asian Stores!
Hanap[ hanap pag may time. :-) O magapa-DHL ka kaya?

Daily Devotions 365 Daily Supplements For The Heart Approved Therapeutic Claims

John 5:17
“My Father is always at his work to this very day, and I, too, am working.”

You know one thing about God? Our God is a working God. Pagbukas ng tabing ng Biblia, Act 1, Scene 1, we see God na nagtatrabaho. Gumagawa ng liwanag, ng bituin, ng halaman, ng hayop at ng tao. Sa ikapitong araw ay namahinga, para i-appreciate ang kanyang ginawa. So, kasali sa paggawa yung appreciation and enjoyment of what we make. Hindi nyo nakita ang Dios na nakatiwangwang at nagpapahinga. Nakita natin ang isang Dios na gumagawa.

Nang ang Panginoong Dios ay bumaba sa lupa at nagkatawang-tao, patuloy pa rin siya sa paggawa. Ano ang ginawa ng Panginoon nung wala pa siyang public ministry? Nagkarpintero! Nung nasa ministry na siya—lakad dito, lakad doon; punta dito, punta doon. Namamangka, naglalakad, umaahon ng bundok, naglilingkod sa mga disipulo, nagpapagaling ng maysakit, nagtuturo sa mga nangangailangan ng karunungan, nagtatama ng mga mali.

Sa climax ng kanyang ministry, nagtatrabaho pa rin! Pinasan ang krus! At habang ipinapako na, nagtatrabaho pa rin. Nanalangin hindi para sa kanyang sarili kundi para sa mga nagpapako sa kanya! At talagang sobrang magtrabaho ang Dios. Namatay na nga, bumangon pang muli. Para magtrabaho na naman. Para i-bless na naman ang kanyang mga disciples. Mag-utos. Mag-manage. Ganundin dapat tayo.

The Lord would like to bless us. He is not selfish. At siya’y mayaman. Natutuwa siya sa mga taong masisipag, marurunong, matatapat. Bagamat mahilig gumawa ng pera ay hindi alipin ng pera at hindi mukhang pera.

Ed Lapiz

Day By Day Christian Ministries